I am 27w3d pregnant and just got married Sept. 9... lately my husband has been getting very annoyed with every little thing I do. I don't feel as if Im doing anything but the tone of his voice and the way he looks at me, shows me differently.Did I do something wrong? What can I do to make him happy with me...
Last night we went to have sex and everything he was doing hurt and he said "That's really not sexy" I cant help Im pregnant and things are different but now he's freaking out saying that He can't please me like he use to! What can I do to explain this to him that IM PREGNANT and MISERABLE!!
2006-09-14 04:37:53 · 14 answers · asked by NaVy WiFeY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
frick people are mean.
dont listen to any of the peeps on here their all just plain rude. you poor thing. tell you hubby that you would love to please him, but you are going threw a lot of changes right now, physically and metally. tell him things might change but you still love him regardless.
remeber to make time to be together. have a night out, and spend time laughing and having fun. he might just be scared of becoming a dad as well.
keep working at it hun! and good luck!
2006-09-14 04:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Savannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're pregnant and miserable, not him. You need to understand his perspective just as much as you want him to understand yours. Sounds like he might be feeling that his whole marriage, sex life, and dealings with you are all based on the pregnancy. You'd better get it in gear and start reminding him of all the other reasons he married you.
As for sex hurting... remind him and yourself that it's only a temporary situation, not a terminal illness. Explain to him that your body is going through some changes right now, but a short while after the baby is born, you'll be back to your old tie me up and pound me through the bed slats self. Then, consider his feelings, take the initiative, and do things that don't hurt.
2006-09-14 05:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by IAINTELLEN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself for his problem(s), us women tend to do that. He obviously has some issues right now and I know that you want to help. However, I think you should give him his time. Not suggesting a seperation or anything like that but let him breeze through the door after work and don't smother him, give him a chance to relax and think. I say this for his sake but moreso for yours. At a time like this, you don't want to be mentally and emotionally abused like this. He can't seem to help himself or have some self control so you need to stay away from his negativity. And being pregnant, your emotions and hormones are pretty haywire too most likely. Remind him that if he ever needs to talk, you will be ready to talk. Perhaps he is just feeling overwhelmed because you guys are now married (huge commitment) and due to the fact that you're expecting a child together (another huge deal and in some cases, commitment). A lot of men would be overwhelmed and without realizing it, take their stress on their loved ones.
2006-09-14 04:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Emi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to him that under the best of circumstances a woman's hormones make her crazy.Add in the pregnant hormones and the physical changes you are insane. You tell him you are volatile enough that if he does not start handling you with care there is no telling what might happen!
2006-09-14 05:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a guy such as myself, pleasing you woman means everything to him. I would rather my wife get off every time than me get off at all, I get great pleasure when my wife is satisfied so I am sure your hubby is frustrated. The problem is we guys can't understand how you women feel or how your hormones work. If you have too fake it, most people would disagree but I would rather have my wife moan and groan than do nothing even if she was faking it, it makes me feel so much better about myself. If you at least fake it, he would feel better about it and feel he is pleasing you, just don't ever tell him, that would be devastating
2006-09-14 05:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl don't listen to the rude things people say, they don't know how it is till they have been their themselves! So who are they to judge! i went through the same thing when i had my son, i really did not want to do anything in the bed room, cause i was tired and miserable, i know what you are going through. There is really no way to explain to your husband, what you are feeling, he has it set in him mind that he can not please you and their is no changing his mind, just every chance you get tell him that you love him and you care about him, don't kiss ***, just make him feel good. Hope that i was a help
2006-09-14 04:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by bdmrplemons 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like in his eyes you are the one not pleasing him, not him pleasing you. good grief, what's his problem. not to hurt your feelings, but did the two of you just get married because you are pregnant? if so, that could be the problem.
2006-09-14 04:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by Texas T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tlak to him. Communicate. Change always brings problems in a marriage.
2006-09-14 04:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many in the same situation as you are experiencing this. He could be put off by your pregnancy. The bottom line is he is a jerk.
2006-09-14 04:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it seems that you married a self centered jerk. I'm sorry, but until he grows up you are going to have problems. I wish you luck.
2006-09-14 04:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Kate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋