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Question

Please only serious answers. I've been through enough crap, I don't need someone insulting me. What is the motive behind a man asking to bring another woman in? I gave my husband sexual favors frequently, sex just about everyday, was willing to do just about anything(that was just the two of us) to please him. And to be honest, I was a pretty damn good lover. I had different styles, different positions. I could be sweet and we could make love, but then I could be spotaneous and surprise him with different locations. There were times when he took charge and times when I took charge. Also, there were different positions, different toys.... Is he not satisfied? Is he bored? Or is he just an inconsiderate pr*ck?

We hadn't been married for all that long, so it's not like it was time for things to be boring. I think that he might be bored because he's asked to bring someone else in... And I do talk to him about what pleases him. We had good communication. And, to me, bringing someone else in is cheating. He knew when he married me what I felt was being faithful. He knew I was strong in my beliefs

***And all of your insights are very helpful!!!!

Answer 1

He is showing a great deal of disrespect for you and your marriage vows. He should appreciate that he has a wonderful wife.

He needs to get help psychologically. He has a disorder. I would never want someone else with my wife woman or man. Marriage is between the husband and wife and that's it.

This is a very high level of disrespect and a very disturbing insight into your husbands mental and sexual desires.

Do not do this. Imagine him with that other woman and you having to watch, would you really feel that great if he was just having the time of his life? It's not normal and it is not moral.

Please get help for him

I hope the best for you and your marriage

Answer 2

If, after all you have done for him in the bedroom, he still wants to add a third person there is something definitely wrong.
I am a great believer in the vows of marriage, respect and fidelity being the two most important. Your husband has a hell of a lot of nerve asking you to do this. What is he thinking? That you will gasp with pleasure at his innovation and beg him to find another woman to share your bed? I'm sorry, but that is just idiotic thinking.
It sounds like he is trying to fulfill his own fantasies, regardless of your feelings. This is selfish behavior and you should not put up with it.
Sit him down and tell him, in no uncertain terms, that you will not have another woman in your bed. Tell him you married him and love him and any extra attractions are off limits.
It has been my experience that in a threesome one of the parties is always less than satisfied. In this case, that person would probably be you. Don't let your husband commit adultery with you in the same room.
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Answer 3

wow, you are a good damn lover, different styles, different positions, sweet, spotaneous and suprprise alot. Whoa! that sure wish that I was your husband and be very faithful to you no matter what and not want anyone just me and you that all.

That how my wife and I feel and we sure not want anyone to join our sex life.. reason you are right I being faithful to my wife so is she. and again you are right to have 3 some that is cheating. Never know what other person have... How in the world can he be not satisfied or bored or inconsiderate prick ???? now he want some one to join 3 some???? man, He alwready know that if before married that you only with him and he with you that all.

But damn dude you have done so much that made me wow, she done alot of things for her husband. I am speechless, If i have time machine i make sure I wasn't married and you not met him and just two of us smiling. No, but wow you are very very amazing woman that he didn't see that you far better than porn movies smiling.

Answer 4

I think you may have reached a situation where he might be saying " Hey Been there done that."Or It is just another stepping stone towards something more erotic. Most men I know always ponder the thought of having another woman in the mix, But that could lead to a 2 way street, ask him if you can have another man with you both, check that reaction, what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Maybe set some guidelines on that you choose the 3rd. party. Shywood

Answer 5

I know I will probably get alot of slack from women for saying this, but I think that human sexuality is still a very primal need. Women need a companion to care for them and their children, men have a compulsion to "spread their seed." I know this sounds horrible, but you can't just change thousands of years of evolution. I think this is instinctive and slow to change.

And now the guys will hate me for saying this, but I think you are giving him too much. If you don't play hard-to-get every once in a while, most men will just get bored and need more stimulation to be sexually satisfied. You really can have too much of a good thing.

I don't think you should be insulted if he asks to bring a third party into the equation. I think the vast majority of men desire this (and if his woman is cool with everything else, why not this extra step?). You just need to say that you are not okay with this and remind him that if he strays, he has alot to lose.

Answer 6

I don't think it's you, I think it's him that has a serious problem! Some people, no matter how much you give, it's never enough. My ex, before she left, I told her that I had given everything I had except for the blood in my veins....then told her she could have that if she wanted it......but she was NEVER satisfied. Enough was NEVER enough. I think your husband is the same way with your sex life. No matter what you did, it would never be enough. You have done all you can..... the rest is up to him! Yes, he's just the latter.

Answer 7

The first thing is, don't look for ways to blame yourself. You have done your best.

It's your husband who has a lot of growing-up to do. He thinks that because you have catered to his every sexual whim, you'll go along with this one- but if you do, there will be more, kinkier ones.

Tell him he has reached the limit. And until he scales back, he doesn't even get the candy he is now getting. If he cannot accept that, he has to go.

I wish you all the best. You'll need to be very firm with a spoiled brat like this one.

Answer 8

Your man just thought that you were as open minded as you were leading on about sex.

Obviously, he was wrong.

He thought that, since you were doing everything he ever wanted sexually, that you would agree to bringing in another female - no doubt because he wants that, also.

You've set a precedent and he was hoping that you would continue it. He might be inconsiderate, but you've set the bar and he was just jumping for it - don't blame him for asking - he might of reacted the same exact way as you did, when you asked him to pull your hair that one time.

Apologize for overreacting and explain your reaction; get back to your previous fun with the fresh understanding of where the boundary is.

Answer 9

what gives you the impression that the only thing a man wantsd from a woman is sex? he is a man with feelings and he might not be seeing your sponteneity as romantic but rather he might view youas som chic who can just be decrscribed as a maniac i'm sorry if that hurts but a man i mean a good guy wants romance not pervasion you caring for him is the only thing that can makehim have the kind of respect that you desire from him don't only give him your body give him your soul he'll handle it well.

Answer 10

Wish my wife was like you..... like anything else, men need to be ever evolving..... so even though you give him everything, that will get repetative/boring too...

He is pushing his envolope and seeing how far you will go. Just be firm if you don't want a threesome.

Honey, it's called marriage, somebody came up with this idea thousands of years ago, and this is what we have to live with!