I just bought my house June 15, 2006 and I can't get my driver license until i pay my fines therefore I have to get a job . I have 2 kids and my old man just makes me so angry my stomache curdles. When it comes to the kids and the house as far as cleaning, doing yard work or just watching out for the kids well being I am always the one to be on top of it. He is always more concerned about his worker which is a drunk he will make sure this guy has his bills payed before ours are like right now we are behind on our 2nd mortgage payment and I try to talk to him about serious matters like that and he wants to avoid my concern and try to give me a kiss while he eats a piece of the cake at 8am in the morning I told him why are you trying to kiss me? He is lazy and very irresponsible and I've had it with this guy we have been together for 4 years and I have stopped enjoying life the way I used to I look at it now like a prison sentence.
2006-09-14 04:28:19 · 11 answers · asked by Vanessa S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
HAVE YOU TRIED COUNSELING OR AN ULTIMATUM...IF NOT TRY THESE BEFORE YOU MAKE ANY HARSH DECISIONS BECAUSE YOU ARE WITH BECAUSE THERE ONCE WAS SOMETHING...RIGHT???? OK THEN YOU MUST WORK AT IT...GOOD LUCK
2006-09-14 04:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow it seems pretty easy to me. I don't nbeleive in staying togehter for the kids. Imagine how great of a mom you would be if you were actually happy? I left my first husband when my daughter was 3 mths old. I had nothing but the shirt on my back. She is 8 now and we have a great realtionship. I am remarried with a 20 mth old and our family dynamic works really well.
You obviously have different priorities and as long as you have given him the chance to ammend this and he hasn't then it is fair game. Your family should come first and if he can't do that then good luck to him. But You will be better off trust me. At least you have the assurance that you can do it on your own since you have been.
I've always made it a rule never to entirely rely on anyone else because you never know what the future brings and whether they will always be there. Good luck and I know you will do what is in your heart. Remember you are doing this for your kids future.
2006-09-14 04:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to learn he is also responsible for everything there too. The house, the kids and you!! If he can not do it and you lose the house try to make sure you have something to fall back on so the kids do not have to suffer! Tell him he is making the kids suffer for his laziness and that they need a roof over their heads and food in their tummies. If he is more concerned about his worker then he can go live with him. You try to find a job and work off your fines and get your license back! Good Luck!
2006-09-14 04:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guy needs to grow up and act like an adult. A lot of guys today think we're mom, instead of girlfriend, wife, whathave you.
My late husband was very irresponsible like that as well. Time to get rid of this looser. Best bet is to talk to a lawyer about what to do. Look for the free legal aid society in your area. Chances are you may qualify for free or lower rated assistance. If you can't find the number, your local social services department may know it.
2006-09-14 04:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Voice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that bad and you see no hope then move on, too bad for the kids though. If your plan is to try to keep the house or whatever, you might have a battle on your hands.
Maybe some couples counseling would help, and if not even that then consider your losses, learn from your mistakes, and move on.
2006-09-14 04:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl ,check this ,(1)if you are not happy ,go ,get ,git ,leave ,bounce (2)he is NEVER going to change (3) your children are young enough that they will adapt(4)you are strong enough to do it(5)why would you want an unhappy household for your kids?(6)if you continue on your present path,the place will blow up (7)you are nobodies servant(8)your A#1 responsibility is to raise those kids in a healthy nurturing happy positive environment!(9)need i say more?????????????
2006-09-14 04:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, change the locks on the house, put his stuff outside. Sometimes the only way to get away from someone is to move to a different state.
2006-09-14 04:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get blunt with him,, then get a friend of the court mediater for child support, if you go to them and explain about your driving problem they may help. You can also call the womans survival center in oakland county they have alot of resources for your type of situation
2006-09-14 04:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on.
You are clearly unhappy and want to end this relationship
The best thing to do is get out he will not change and if you marry him it will only get worse
Good Luck!
2006-09-14 04:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you're that unhappy, make a change and do it soon
2006-09-14 04:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Texas T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋