having sex with my wife so my separation won't be set back 6
months. Its her word against mine and I really doubt she has
any proof like a video and if she did it would not be clear-I could
always say she tried to have sex, but I pulled away and never went inside. She is a nasty hateful sob and the last thing I
want to do is to have to wait 6 months longer.
ALSO, should I deny this to my new lawyer ???
( I told my other lawyer we did 0 but I could always change
that story.
2006-09-14 04:24:26 · 26 answers · asked by don;t know 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel for you. Look, its sad that you have to go thru such a miserable thing like divorce. Believe me, I know. Been there done that. Its not criminal if you say no. Just realize if you can live with lying then so be it. Its your business anyway. I think we all have done worse things in life. I had sex with my soon to be ex too and I never admitted it. Im not saying I liked that I did it but I can live with it.
2006-09-14 07:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by Uncertainty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not lie to the court nor to your lawyer. Tell them the truth and get the best advice for your situation. I assume you are not referring to UK law since you would have to have been separated for 2 years, not 6 months. Are there no other grounds on which you and your wife could divorce now? Or are you not divorcing on the grounds of separation anyway? It may be that one sexual encounter with her will not prejudice your position as she seems to think it will, and it certainly doesn't sound as if it has led to any prospect of a reconciliation.
But if necessary, it would probably be better for you to wait a bit longer and get your divorce in a way that is open and above board, and which she can never attack later. If she believes you are not bothered about waiting, it will remove a weapon from her hand - she will have nothing to threaten you with.
Good luck.
2006-09-14 04:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go ahead and say you didnt have sex with her. However what if she's pregnant? If she is pregnant then that will slow down the divorce proceedings and you will have to take a paternity test to PROVE THE BABY IS NOT YOURS.
OF course of the judge finds out the baby is yours, your gonna be up a creek without a paddle.
However, you can always just tell the judge the truth, yes you did have sex with her.
Do you two have any kids together??
Usually a divorce with no children involved doesnt take that long unless there are properties and assets to be divided and of course prenuptual agreements to get thru.
Best of luck
2006-09-14 04:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your ex and see if she will agree to keep quiet about this. I would not lie to your lawyer if you already told him about it, it will ruin your credibility and make you out to be a liar about everything. The story about not going inside of her is never going to fly, so forget that one. Talk to your lawyer and see how this will effect the divorce proceedings. I do not think it is another six months, I think it is six months from your last encounter. It may not even make a difference. Depends on the State you are in.
2006-09-14 04:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, too much known already to deny it now. Who is a judge or whoever going to believe now? you , or your wife and YOUR old lawyer???? I think you should have thought about this before hand and maybe keep it in mind in the future. I think it's too much and could bite you in the a@@ later. and then, maybe she'll get more because they feel like you're the liar and her the victim.
2006-09-14 04:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of their ever being "Rules, or laws" that say when your getting a devorce, you cant have "Sex" with the soon-to-be-Ex!!! What kind of Law, is this?? Me & my ex, had sex, after we were devorced, and during the devorce... Just because we didn't want any "Strange" you know.... I would just tell your Lawyer, that if its mentioned, that you didn't want to be with any strangers, because your devorcing her, doesn't mean, you dont like what your Used too!! Blaim it on the STDs you could get from a stranger!!! Good-Luck, to you, you'll do fine!!!
2006-09-14 04:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 08:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a nasty hateful sob, by all means lie about it. By the sounds of it she used sex as a weapon against you to get the marrige prolonged. Sounds like you need to be out of that marrige as soon as possible.
2006-09-14 04:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by Danny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you deserve whatever you get. You might have to the pay the price of one more roll in the hay with the 6 month wait.
2006-09-14 04:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest with your lawyer, and you have to start to do the right things. And if you want to get away from your wife, then it looks like you will not want to have sex with her. make up your mind, what you want.
2006-09-14 04:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋