I've been married for 6 yrs. and feel so ugly at times. I'm not sure that my DH thinks I'm very attractive anymore. So, when a guy "notices" me it makes me feel good. Is this bad since I'm married (although not happily married but none the less I'm married).
2006-09-14 04:15:33 · 25 answers · asked by RainaDeLaSol 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are seeking validation for someone outside of your marriage, yes I think there is something wrong with that. The FIRST problem is the fact that you don't love yourself. How can you call yourself ugly? You disrespect yourself which makes it apparent why you disrespect your husband. As a married I know that there is no stamp we wear on our forhead (not even our wedding ring) stops men from flirting with us and some even feel that it is healthy to flirt....BUT doing it to make yourself feel good will probably lead you to doing OTHER things to make yourself feel good. Why not discuss how you feel with your husband and hopefully his love for you will be enough.
2006-09-14 04:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, we ALL feel ugly sometimes. If you enjoy the occasional flirtation I see nothing wrong with that.
The problem here is you say you are unhappily married. This is what you need to address. If you are unhappy you must discover the reasons and find ways to fix them.
You think you're husband no longer finds you attractive? Why? Could it be something you are doing or not doing? Do you think he is looking elsewhere?
Or maybe the problem is more serious. People do fall out of love, you know.
You should re-examine your marriage and try to resolve any negative issues therein.
In the meanwhile, enjoy the flirting. But do not give up on your marriage. Talk to your husband about how you are feeling. Try to work it out.
Good luck.
D
2006-09-14 06:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by Bugsy Groucho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're married, If it's `the guy doing the flirting there's no problem. Every woman feel unattractive at times no matter how good they really look. I think it helps boost the self-esteem to know that someone else finds you attractive, specially when you feel that your other half is no longer acknowledging it.
2006-09-14 04:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad, you are not doing anything wrong. It is only wrong if you take it further but then again you are in an unhappy marriage so why not get out? Life is too short to live it in misery. Make the most of your life and even if you decide to stay enjoy the attention from other guys, there is no harm in it.
2006-09-14 04:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love your husband why don't you leave? I can't see why some people stay in an unhappy marrage. No i dont think its wrong that you feel good when a guy notices you but i think you should have a good think about how you want the rest of you life to be like
2006-09-14 04:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by sarah_99bc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with feeling good when another man notices you or pays you a compliment. And there's nothing wrong with flirting. Try to remember, if other guys find you attractive, you can't be that bad!
2006-09-14 04:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not a bad thing to like being admired by the opposite sex. Everyone likes a little attention from strangers now and then. But if you think that this is affecting your marriage or it is more than a little harmless flirting then you shouldn't do it.
if you are unhappy in your marriage, why are you in it?
maybe it is time to think things through and have a talk with hubby
2006-09-14 04:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your marriage needs some changes for the feeling of affection coming back.
There is nothing wrong about enjoying flirting by other guys, It's all about human vanity. You are being appreciated. That's what make you feel better about yourself.
Find a way that make ur husband flirt you ~
2006-09-14 04:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by Chanel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
concentration on the failings you get excitement from & attain them. if your unhappy in different events then stop. yet do no longer do it basically because of the fact of others making u experience as though u did no longer make the remarkable call. If the instructor thinks ur the guy for the interest then for sure u r.. U r great looking. the clarification for no longer feeling like u r, is cuz each thing else in ur life is a lil loopy.. drugs... no longer the desirable determination, yet all of us have been there.. provide up stressing on the undesirable issues u have executed & concentration on the best u WILL DO ! in straightforward terms u can exchange all this.. So, get ur self assurance lower back & issues gets extra useful. desirable luck.
2016-11-07 07:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love to look at women.I dont stare, I try to be discreet about it so as not to make them uncomfortable.your husband is droping the ball if you are feeling ugly.so I think it is only natural that you seek attention someplace else.go ahead dress sexy and draw more flirtatiouse behavior from other men.and maybe he will notice and get a little jealouse.
2006-09-14 09:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Alex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋