My ex died recently which we had a daughter together, he never done anything for her so he went to jail and died in jail from natural causes. I didn't get to say anything to him or see before he died, is there any hope for me. I know he is gone on to a better place but what can I do now, I feel so guilty inside and my heart hurts so bad because I didn't try to work something out with him. Is there anything I can do will he hear me if I talk to him, I am a hurt confused person right now and i need advices on what to do? I feel that part of this is my fault. Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-14 04:10:55 · 5 answers · asked by BabyGirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is not much you can do, life goes on. Just think of the good memories you had with him, and not the bad. That will cheer you up. I think for now you should concentrate on your daughter and have a loving relationship with her. He will always be with you if you believe in him. Cheers
2006-09-14 04:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your fault. How old is your daughter? How do you think she feels? How would you feel if you saw your mother depressed? Would it make you depressed too. You need to be strong for your daughter. When she is ready, talk to your daughter, tell her the good things about her father. Don't dis him infront of her.
If you feel talking to him some time, do it during the evening, after your daughter is asleep, probably in your room. Just say, you left me alone and I am sad. When people cross over, their worries dont cross over. He is probably at peace. Whatever problems he had when he lived he has forgotten about. But think of it this way. He still sees you once in a while, he still comes around once in a while, and he will be there when your daughter has accomplishments. Do you ever watch John Edwards? You should find one of his books, probably at the library. Also there is Silvia Brown. Both of these people are mediums and they both have a number of books you should look into. I think those will help you.
2006-09-14 11:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by LadyRaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that by just taking the time out to talk like he was sitting next to you it will help with what your feeling. Sometimes it helps to release what you have been holding back all this time. I cant guarantee that he hears you but in the long run you will feel better. Just the release of your feelings will help. There is plenty of hope for you. You will be fine once you open up. If you still feel bad after that maybe talking with a counselor will help you get through what your feeling.
2006-09-14 11:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Barry G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to here about your loss, but it is not you fault he passed. whats done is done and you cant change that, and he is not coming back, you can pray to him and ask for his forgiveness but he has already forgiven you, he is now in a better place were he can watch over you and your daughter. talk to him sweetie and he will hear you. god bless you and keep your head up.
2006-09-14 11:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by carrasmel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see your clegyman for answers to your questions ... and no, there is no fault for you in his demise, your late husband brought all his problems onto himself ,,, he made his own choices and landed hmself in jail.
2006-09-14 11:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋