We have tried several times but always fail as im very tight and feel it painful. I want a baby now but im still virgin.How can i overcome this problem?
2006-09-14 04:02:19 · 14 answers · asked by RK 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
A couple of friends took over three months before they started having proper sex with their husbands. So don't think something's wrong with you. That can put additional pressure on you and your husband.
Try to pleasure your husband in ways other than vaginal insertion, and only when you feel absolutely ready for it, try vaginal sex. Make sure that you are properly lubricated (your own fluids or ky jelly). Try inserting only a little bit of his penis instead of the whole thing.
Take it step by step, a little each time, and I'm sure that soon, you'll be having pain-free sex.
And stop trying to get pregnant. That should be the last thing on your mind now.
2006-09-14 05:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by aka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it always hurts bad the first time.
i just turned 22, I got married 6 months ago and was going through the same thing. I just decided i was gonna go through with it even if it hurted. As a virgin u bleed a little, which is normal the first time. its a change in ur body which gets better and better as u do it. just have plenty of lubrication, go slow and just take it and u will be ok..
sooner or later u will have ur baby. Just think if u cant take having sex now imagine when its time to give birth. Just go for it. u will be ok
good luck
2006-09-14 11:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by SHYBABIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a chance you might need to talk to a doctor. There is a condition called vaginismus that sounds like it might be what is happening. It's an involuntary tightening that makes sex very painful, almost impossible. From what I understand, it is very treatable either medically or with counseling. After two months of trying, there may be an underlying issue that goes beyond just nerves. It's nothing to be ashamed of, and hopefully with your husband's support you'll be fine. Good luck!
2006-09-14 11:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by p.helen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KY Jelly should help, and tell him to take his time, or maybe you should just get on top and go down for as much as you can take, believe me once you have done it you want have to worry about the pain anymore everything will be open and ready for the next time and then you can enjoy it and make that beautiful baby that you both want!!! Just go slow and lube it up!!!
2006-09-14 11:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by Akira20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep having sex. If you're still a virgin then you havent had sex. The first time you have sex it is tight and it does hurt. Its perfectly normal. you just have to get through that pain for the first few times.
It didnt work for me for the longest time, and i even bled the first time i had sex. But after a few weeks of having sex it finally stopped hurting, and after a couple more weeks it actually felt good.
The pain isnt that intense after you get through the initial first time. Use some ky jelly if you're too dry down there, that can make it even more painful.
2006-09-14 11:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he make sure that you are wet before he trys to put it in you and second you need to relax because that makes you even more tight than you are. Its going to hurt until he can loosen it up down there. give it time and you will find that it was worth the wait.
2006-09-14 11:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by AmAnDa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has an enormous penis. You need to use a lot of lubrication and tell him to go slow.
2006-09-14 11:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by BiyGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your time lots of forplay and maybe a lubricant.being relaxed is the key. and tell him to insert it before it is fully erect if it is very big.lucky you enjoy
2006-09-14 11:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it hurts, it isn't worth having a baby because you will REALLY feel pain.
2006-09-14 11:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jason N 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would try a lubcation that got warm to the touch it sould work.
2006-09-14 11:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by smylegrl27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋