How to improve your EQ?

Answer 1

EQ = emotional IQ.

It means understanding your own and other people’s emotional makeup well enough to move yourself and others in the direction of accomplishing your own goals as well as that of your organization or business. Not only that - EQ also determines levels of happiness in personal life. Or rather, your level of competence in utilizing your EQ is crucial for success in both business and life, and damaging when the factors are missing.

Here is a list of 15 ways to examine your thinking, and thus improve your EQ, based on the work of Aaron Beck.

1. Identify Distortions – write down the negative thought and identify how it fits under the ten forms of distorted thinking. Once we see that our negative thoughts and beliefs are not realistic, it’s much easier to replace them with thoughts that are more positive and realistic.

2. Substitution – simply ask yourself if you can think of a more positive and realistic thought and substitute that one every time you catch yourself thinking the negative thought.

3. Cost-Benefit Analysis – list the advantages and disadvantages of a negative thought, belief or behaviour – for example, the advantages of getting angry or upset in various situations. Ask yourself “how will it help me and how will it hurt me to think like this”.

4. Evidence Examination – ask yourself - what is the evidence that this thought IS true? What is the evidence that it is not true? Instead of assuming that a negative thought is true, examine the actual evidence for it.

5. Survey Method – do a survey to find out if your thoughts and attitudes are realistic. For example, if you believe that public speaking anxiety is abnormal, ask several friends if they ever felt that way.

6. Experimental Method – often you can actually do an experiment to test the accuracy of your negative thought – ask yourself “how could I check to find out if this thought really IS true?”.

7. Double-Standard Technique - talk to yourself in the same compassionate way you might talk to a dear friend who was upset.

8. Pleasure-Predicting Method – predict how satisfying activities will be, from 0% to 100%. Then keep a check on how satisfying they actually turn out to be. After a few days you will get a good idea of how good your fortune telling talents might be.

9. Why – ask why it would be upsetting if it were true.

10. Shades of Gray Thinking – instead of thinking about your problems in black and white categories, evaluate things in shades of gray.

11. Defining Labels – when you label yourself as “inferior” or a “loser”, ask yourself what you really mean by these labels.

12. Specific Method – stick with reality – those are statements of FACT - and avoid generalized judgments about reality.

13. Semantic Method – substitute language that is less emotionally loaded for “should” statements and labelling.

14. Re-attribution – instead of blaming yourself for a problem, think about ALL the factors that may have contributed to it.

15. Acceptance Paradox – instead of defending yourself against your own self-criticisms, find truth in them and humbly accept them BUT without beating yourself up for them.

Answer 2

Looks like I'm not the only one who hasn't heard of EQ, but at least I had the sense, and curiosity, to look it up. Interesting concept, perhaps by taking more time to think about what other people are feeling.

Answer 3

EQ can be improved by surrounding yrself with people and increasing yr levels of social interaction

Answer 4

Sorry, I can't answer that question as clever as I am I don't know what an EQ is !

Answer 5

EQ or Emotional Quotient or Emotional Intelligence is the innate potential to feel, use, communicate, recognize, remember, learn from, manage and understand emotions. Each baby is born with a certain, unique potential for emotional sensitivity, emotional memory, emotional processing and emotional learning ability. It is these four inborn components which I believe form the core of one's emotional intelligence.


To improve EQ, do the following.

a) Become emotionally literate. Label your feelings, rather than labeling people or situations.

b) Distinguish between thoughts and feelings.

c) Take more responsibility for your feelings.

d) Use your feelings to help them make decisions.


e) Show respect for other people's feelings.


f) Feel energized, not angry. Use what others call "anger" to help feel energized to take productive action.

g) Validate other people's feelings. Show empathy, understanding, and acceptance of other people's feelings.

h) Practice getting a positive value from emotions. Ask yourself: "How do I feel?" and "What would help me feel better?"


i) Don't advise, command, control, criticize, judge or lecture to others. Instead, try to just listen with empathy and non-judgment.

j) Avoid people who invalidate you.

Answer 6

Don't worry about it. It doesn't matter. Relax. Self-improvement is a slippery slope to always finding fault with yourself.

Answer 7

i think of you're speaking approximately emotional intelligence. sure, this may be a protracted existence, human beings can continually strengthen, in basic terms however in the event that they have the bravery to look at who they are and who they at the instant are not.

Answer 8

Try this website. Lots of good information and exercises that you can work on.
www.themindgym.com

Answer 9

well, if youre into drum and bass, i suggest you look towards the lower frequencies... silly me, you mean IQ... well, based on your question, its already around zero, so, i'd suggest a dictionary as a good start.

Answer 10

is to test your IQ