My wife and I were having a quicky......?

Question

first time in almost 2 weeks. She was on top and I pulled out, half way thru getting off, she jumps up and almost ran to the bathroom to wash her hands off. Now I don't want this to get reported and I don't mean to be crude about it....there was no other way to say it....but after that, I was so turned off and it gave me a feeling of WTF! Am I wrong to feel this way and is there any reason for her to do this. I would love to here from the ladies on this one.

I was a quicky but it was a night and I did not intend on a quicky, we had all the time in the world.

Answer 1

Has she been afraid of body fluids in the past or is this new? Some people don't like it and it grosses them out. You need to tell her your feelings. I assume she was grossed out by the body fluids. I think alot women are. And it is normal if she was to like it or if she was to not like it. It is a personal choice. But, I think if you are to express your feelings. She still doesn't need to like it but maybe she doesn't need to run. Since that is insulting to you.I am sure if you talk maturely this will be easily worked out. If this is a new thing. Than she may be having some intimacy problems.Talk to her.

Answer 2

I think that it offended her because you had come so quickly! When a man does a quickie, that can & will make a woman feel like all that he was interested in was satisfying himself! That he is not thinking of her wants & needs, he is only worried about his own!
Just because that one was a quickie, that does not mean that you guys had to quit! Maybe she just wanted to wash her hands off and come back and get started again, but you had taken her reason for washing her hands in the wrong way! Why don't you guys keep a damp cloth available so that when that happens again she won't have to wash the stickiness off in the bathroom, and you guys can enjoy & finish what you guys had started?

Answer 3

Hey Andy, I wouldn't be too concerned about her speedy hygiene. I love my husband very much and enjoy our sex life immensely, but don't necessarily love his product of our love. I have never told him (but have probably run to wash before I should have). Also, after reading some of your other questions, women do go through phases where we are too tired, stressed, hormone changes, etc. and we are just not in the mood. I would just do quickies then too. Also, it takes time to be cured physically and mentally after a yeast infection. My suggestion is to be more helpful around the house and with the kids (to help with tiredness), listen to her problems and console (to help with the stress) and give little affectionate hugs, tell her you love and/or appreciate her a lot (to get her in the mood). I think you're a good husband and probably already do some of these things. Bring her little surprises...they don't have to be expensive...a favorite candy bar, a book she wants to read, a flower...to let her know you are thinking of her. I know she'll be back to normal soon. You guys are solid.

Answer 4

I think you are certainly reading into it too much. Try to understand that while some men think it's hot to see their ehhhhhhh sperm on their mate doesn't mean their mate enjoys this. It doesn't mean there is any less or more attraction it just means that their is perhaps a lack of communication in this particular area. Talk about it...if you bring it up first then she'll respect you all the more but do be sensitive about it. Don't bring it up if you are really upset over it...wait until the p.o'd feeling is gone and you can handle the conversation calmly. Good luck;)

Edited to add: One more thought.....maybe she was actually upset because you got yours but she didn't get hers

Answer 5

What? It sounds like some serious games going on here.
Why do you pull out unless you are into the porn money shot or trying to prevent pregnancy? Withdrawal is not birth control.
You were turned off, maybe she did not want to be soiled? What the hell are you two up to? If you don't have a serious talk soon about your sex life you won't have a life together at all.

Answer 6

First of all if she's holding out for two weeks it shouldn't be a quicky or at least intentionally. :o)

If you weren't using any protection and she doesn't want to become pregnant maybe she wanted to remove "what you gave her". (Maybe she forgot to take the pill or insert the diaphram.)

If she was washing her hands and she's not a germaphobe, you should definately be offended!

Either way you should talk to her.

Best of luck!!

Answer 7

Try keeping a towel or wash rag(even baby wipes) in your night stand or under the side of your bed. Right after sex can be a very intimate moment for a couple. Explain how it made you feel and ya'll figure out how to avoid this in the future!

Answer 8

NO.... I would be upset to. You didn't rush off to go wipe her juices off of you so whats the deal? But I don't think she meant anything by it, it's a natural reaction. If you get something sticky or gross on your hands you automatically rush to wash it off right? Well that's what she did. Just let her know it made you feel like she was grossed out by you and see what she has to say.

Answer 9

Oh hell yes, if my love and I are doing stuff without a condom, I am up *immediately* to clean myself off afterwards. It's sticky, it smells bad, and there's no way in heck I'm letting it soak into the sheets unless I somehow ended up on HIS side of the bed and HE gets to sleep on it!

Answer 10

Wash what off her hands, is it the first time, most people like to clean up afterwards, normal.