i feel horrible i went out with my friend as dare. i never thought i would fall in love with her. she found out everythin was a lie. she won't talk to me. she doesn't believe what i have to say, she thinks what i'm saying is nothing but a lie
2006-09-14 03:58:06 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
whats your F***KIN problem asshole? did you know what you did was wrong. of course you did you and you still did it. i can't believe you. why are all guys like this? do they like to play with girls heart and then end up breaking up with them? i bet she felt a fool for going out with you. i would do the same thing i won't believe you what you have to say. i'll make you beg if you want my forgiveness. but whatever pain you made her feel. I HOPE SHE DOESN'T FORGIVE YOU AND GAVE YOU ANOTHER CHANCE.
but to answer your question. if you really really love her then talk to her. maybe she'll forgive you
2006-09-14 04:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by mommie2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for heaven's sake, what were you thinking in the first place? Didn't you realize this would get back to her and harm the friendship, no matter how the 'date' went? I guess you know all that now though...
Send flowers and a note... Tell her what a jerk you are for taking the dare, but that it must have been fated to happen because otherwise you might not have gotten to know and love her the way you have. Tell her that even if you have lost her friendship over this stupidity of yours, you will always treasure the beauty you have seen in her. Point out that you don't blame her one bit for her reaction... you deserve it and deserve to have the pain now in your heart because you couldn't see this wonderful girl standing next to you all this time, all you could see was a buddy that was fair game for a practical joke... a joke that turned out to be on you. Offer future friendship... real friendship, if she can find it in her heart to forgive your ignorance.
It might not win her love, but it could salvage a good friendship for the future and has taught you a valuable lesson... don't jerk others around, especially not as a joke.
2006-09-14 04:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by toastposties 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is how you feel, I'd tell her, and tell her that you never meant to like her as much as you do. and I'd give her a present, even a flower you picked even if it's just a dandelion. Just something or things that will show her you really care about her. I don't have too many ideas about that, but maybe others can help you out with some ideas. I'd say kidnap her and take her on a romantic picnic, but you could be arrested. LOL Find out what means the most to her, or something like that, and try to get her attention and trust back. It's time to pull out the stops on this one.
2006-09-14 04:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oops - looks like you have your work cut out. Stay persistent and true. Tell her what is about her that had you fall in love with her.
Did you like her before? Did the dare just give you the courage to go out with her ... knowing if things didn't work out no harm no foul, nothing lost.
If you do love her, all you can do is wait .... eventually she may come around and forgive your initial deceit.
2006-09-14 04:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she will not talk to you, then you have to send her a card explaining everything, say, Yes I went out with you as a dare, but the thing is, while being out with you, I was drawn to you, by your smile, the things you like, and I fell in love with you, so I like everything about you. I know when you found this out, it must have hurt you, and now I am hurting even more, I miss you, I hope you can find forgiveness in your heart. Please forgive me, I hope you can forgive me, I love you!!
2006-09-14 04:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took a perlious journey into a womans heart and have found out now that it was easier to just go up to her rather than take a dare. NOw you have more problems to deal with. Do you blame her?
Your out of luck for right now, but then again I am only responding to your qestion.
You want her....GO GET HER!!
2006-09-14 04:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her, you can keep trying and maybe with time she might forgive you. It is difficult to start a relationship up with a lie. I'm sure she must have been totally embarrassed as well. Try and put yourself in her shoes, how would you feel? You need to do anything you can to make it up to her.
2006-09-14 04:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the previous answer, but I also I think that you need to display sincerity ( i don't know how sincere you may be coming across) .... and most importatnly be consistent! You wronged your friend... if your attempts to regain her trust result in frustration, you must not show her that! Be sincere and consistent until she can trust you again.
2006-09-14 04:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Claudia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you definitely shouldn't expect to regain her trust back overnight! That won't happen! But give it some time & space. Let her know you care, but from a distance, because she is not into you right now.
2006-09-14 04:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how much of a forgiving person she is. But you have humiliated her and she feels a fool.
Write her a letter explaining it all, be as sincere and as apologetic as you can. Tell her how immature you were and that you really do love her. Send her flowers.
It is really up to her if she forgives you or not.
2006-09-14 04:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋