Im not a bad person, i just really love my boyfriend. Can i deny i cheated (really early in the relationship - just a kiss). If im honest - he'll leave me. I was stupid & i regret it.
2006-09-14 03:53:10 · 20 answers · asked by puma* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it might 'leak-out'. i think the wrong people know, should i stick to my guns & deny all the way. there's no evidence, but 'where there's smoke - there's fire', right?
Please help me, im going crazy. I dont want to loose my boyfriend.
My gut says leave it ...
My head says tell him (and loose him).
2006-09-14 04:12:47 · update #1
I don't know what your talking about it must have been someone else!
Or start kissing lots of other people aswell that way even if he gets told that you kissed so and so. You can brush it aside my saying you know I kiss all my friends it's just the way I am. ( by the way I dont mean kiss your friends with tounges ).
But seriously I have been keeping secrets for my best friend for years and years . He is a very naughty boy but has always denied any wrong doing. And it has worked for him what you dont know cant hurt you!
Or you could make out as if it was just before you started going out with him that way you were technically cheating on the other guy with him. Now thats a nice little twist in the tail.
Then to nail the cupboard shut ask him did he ask because he doesnt trust you. And see what he says, He will be putty in your hands.
Then buy a big gun and shoot everyone that knows or spread vicious rumors about them. That will keep them talking about other things and less about you.
Anyway good luck
2006-09-14 05:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been in the relationship for?
I’m just curious, because two hours ago, you asked the question…
“Is two weeks into a relationship, a relationship yet?”
You do appreciate don’t you, that ‘denying the truth’ is the same as ‘telling a lie’?
OK… you have got two options… to tell or not to tell.
If it was just a kiss that isn’t going to go any further, then forget it happened.
If however, the boyfriend finds out about it, and questions you, you will have to be honest with him.
I appreciate that you are scared that if you tell your boyfriend the truth, he might leave you. The thing is though, that for your relationship to be a success, it needs you to be ‘honest’.
Honesty is very important in any relationship. If your boyfriend finds out that you weren’t honest, he will loose his trust and respect in you.
If he finds out about it, and questions you…
Explain the circumstances of what happened…
Tell him how much you love him…
Tell him how sorry you are, and how you will make sure it doesn’t happen again.
If he loves you, he will forgive you.
If he dumps you… move on to a relationship with someone a bit more understanding !!!
2006-09-14 03:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a kiss. What a peck or a full face one? I wouldn't bring it up he would proabbly flip out cuz he won't think it was just a kiss. If that's all you did then you shouldn't have any guilt. What did the kiss feel like for you? Was it a passionate as you wanted it to be? If not then why worry. As long as you don't do it again I'm sure you'll get over it. Good luck!
2006-09-14 03:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kissed some guy early in your relationship and you're letting it eat you up? Where'd you kiss him?
In the grand scheme of things one kiss, when you're not really sure if the person you're dating is 'the one', isn't the end all be all.
Let it go. Try to forget it happened. Now, that you know you really love the man you're with, stay faithful. If you tell him, it's going to open up an entirely unnecessary can of worms.
2006-09-14 04:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by IAINTELLEN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth. if he loves you he will find it to forgive you. and seeing as it was at the beginning of the relationship (not that, thats an excuse) it sounds like it was along time ago. also you could try tlking to the person you snogged about howe u are feeling now he might understand.
you need to tell your boyfriend though before someone else does and it will definately sound better coming from you and he is more like to forgive you
2006-09-14 04:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. Denying it happened will not solve anything. Forgive yourself, leave it in the past where it belongs and never cheat again.
2006-09-14 03:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not married. It was early on, and it seems like it really scared you. It seems like you have realized the error of your ways. When I was first dating my husband, he cheated on me and I said forget it, I don't want to have anything to do with you. It took 5 yrs. before we were ready to marry but trust is a huge part of our relationship now because I know it really scared him.
2006-09-14 04:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does your boyfriend even have any suspicion about this? it was just a kiss so if it does come out explain that it was a mistake we all make mistakes its part of life. just forget about it and get on with your life. good luck.
2006-09-14 04:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwwwwwww, thats a tough one and i can completly understand ur fear. look i am not a saint but i know i am not a bad person either... and i have done my share of "stupid" things. dont beat yourself over it..... it happens to all of us cause we are jsut human. as long as u are sure u aint repeating it... let it go. you ahev some one to love, and thats precious... not to be thrown away for a mere kiss. good luck.
2006-09-14 04:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it and get on with your life if you believe it was a mistake and you will not do it again!
2006-09-14 03:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by foshomofo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋