i am 6 months pregnant and had too move out of my dorm. My ex.bf and babys father helped me get a plave with his buddy matt.I had to sign a contract for a year though .It is two bedroom apartment ajoined with a curtain no doors only on the bathroom small kitchen and living room so its really open. I am going to buy a door but not sure it will help. i signed contract yesterday.The entire area is mostly student rented and noisy i want to know if it will effect a newborn with all that noise? My parents still have agreed to carry on paying for my college and giving me my monthly 450 dollar allowance but i cant seem to get a job yes i have looked. I only have about 1656 dollars in savings from when i did work freshmen summer.
2006-09-14 03:41:07 · 13 answers · asked by amanda h 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i am also worried because if i am in school or work my new born will have to stay at a daycare. There is one on campus but i will miss my child?
2006-09-14 03:43:26 · update #1
i am covered by my parents insurance but the baby wont be and they refuse to help me. Can i make it through this? i only have one baby supply and it is a crib my roomate bought me at a garage sale as a peace offering.lol
2006-09-14 03:46:58 · update #2
my school counsler told me i can only take 2 weeks off after the baby or i loose all my credits for those classes i am only taking 13 right now
2006-09-14 03:50:55 · update #3
I had my son in July and went back to school in September.
I have been told that if you expose your child to a lot of loud noises while in the womb that it will be accustom to it and will sleep right though all the noise.
I would pop into a social services office and see what kind of help that they can give you.
I do think that if at all possible you should find somewhere else to live. You may be able to get out of your contract. Once the baby is born your room mate may want you gone. A baby kind of puts a kink in the style of a young college man.
Yes you will miss your baby while you are at work/school, but it is for the best that you finish your education.
Keep going to garage sales and second hand store to find all the stuff you need for the baby.
I bet that once that baby is born that your parent will feel differently about the little tyke and help out a lot more.
2006-09-14 03:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation, but not too tough to handle. Noise is the last thing I would worry about with a baby on campus. Make sure that "buddy Matt" is fully aware that you're having a baby. I know that sounds stupid, but guys don't know that a baby means no more parties and no more people running in and out - especially if you don't know the people he's bringing around. Fantastic that your parents are so supportive - it is so important to know that you're not alone. Figure out your income and expenses including diapers, wipes, etc. If expenses are more, see if you can get a hike in allowance. If not, get a job at the local McDonald's until you have the baby. The work isn't too hard and you don't have to go back after the baby is born. And now is not the time to be ashamed of a job situation. Then wait until baby is a couple months old if you have to go work. You'll never have this time back! Establish a good breastfeeding relationship and pump if you have to go to work - this will save on money and there is so many wonderful benefits of breastfeeding for you and baby. I'd like to know how all works out. I've been in a similar situation. Email me bergs4him@yahoo.com GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-14 03:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by bergs4him 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, you can do anything you decide to do.
I'd invest in a door. The noise wont effect the baby, he'll actually be a sounder better sleeper for it. Its never a good idea for a baby to sleep in silence, they get used to it and end up being light sleepers.
Your college should have an departmetn that helps you look for jobs. ask around about it, they might be able to help you get a flexable part time job. You can get a job anywhere, it just might not be what you want... gas stations and fast food are always hiring.
You dont have to pay your hospital bill all at once, you can make payments on it. I'd also see about getting some form of child support from the father and the government. Some states/countries offer aid to single mothers for their hospital bills, and most have free insurance for those children.
It's going to be hard but you can do it. You'll be just fine.
2006-09-14 04:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are going to have a rough time with the baby in an apartment that's loud, not to mention people are going to complain about the crying baby at all hours. I feel for your situation and applaud you still going to school but why not stay with your parents(unless they live far away) Once the baby gets here it's father will have to help support it. You will need to take off 6 weeks or more after the baby is born and your attachment will only grow as the baby does, I don't suggest leaving the baby with a sitter until at least 6 months. Maybe you can stop school for 1 year it will go by fast and your stress with be lower, having a small baby is hard
Good luck and God bless
2006-09-14 03:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't be thinking that this is all ur problem to deal with. Your boyfriend will have to help you pay for somethings. As far as ur parents giving you that money. You are so lucky! When I was 18, I was on my own. I would do my darnest if I was you to stay and finish school. The baby will get use to the noise. You could run a fan, it will really block out the noise. If you are single woman I would check into WIC, that will help you with some food costs. Also it will help with the babies food too. Just keep looking for a job. Ask around...sometimes who you know helps with this...You will be fine. It sounds like you are already taking care of ur baby if you are worried about the noise in ur area already. Just stay positive!
2006-09-14 03:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your newborn will still be able to sleep with a certain amount of noise. Does your college not have housing for people with kids? Most do. When you have the baby, of course you'll miss her while at school, every mom does. It is hard to leave your baby, but, you'll both adjust. Can you get a job on campus?? I commend you for staying in school! I have 3 children and am a full time student. It can be done. Also, have you contacted DHS and gottan health ins? What about the health dept and gotten WIC? Maybe contact the housing authority if you feel that you cannot stay where you are! Good luck to you and your baby, you'll make it!
Go to DHS and they can get your baby health ins!
2006-09-14 03:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The baby would most likely get used to the noises, no promises though, some babies are very sensitive. Most new borns just go to sleep when it's too noisy. They have a way of "I can't deal with this anymore, I'll just shut out everything". Hope your roommates don't mind the baby crying at night though.. maybe they'll opt for a door themselves ;-)
Yes, you may miss the baby. The comfort is to know that he/she will be very close by.
2006-09-14 03:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be stressed. That does not sound like a great living situation for you or baby. When you have this baby your whole life and priorities will change. I strongly recommend continuing your education, it will only help both of you in the long run. However, you are going to run into lots of problems with your living scenario. The campus life is no place for your new infant. The noise will constanly be a disturbance and will cause added unhealthy stress for baby, and in return make you more stressed. Living off your parents is no way to go either, it is great that they are helping you out, because you will need it. Definitely keep trying to find a job, however, you will find it next to impossible, because you are preggo and noboday wants to hire someone who is going to off work in a couple of months. Word to the wise, get out of the living environment, get your own place, the state ususally offers lots of help for single moms, income, housing, medical, etc. You can't blame your roomates when they have parties or are loud, they didn't make the decision to have a baby. Good Luck!
2006-09-14 03:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kimm O 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relax. At least your parents are paying for school and giving you an allowance! That's more then many people have. Look and look some more for a job, you'll need $ when the baby arrives! I'm sure you'll miss your baby when it's in daycare, but be glad you have that available to you. Good luck, do the best you can in school for your baby's future.
2006-09-14 03:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most kids can adapt to their environment, such as, when my oldest was born we lived on the side of a busy highway and it was never quiet, but she adjusted and started sleeping just fine, you don't want to teach your children to sleep with no noise at all because they won't be able to sleep when there is, does that make sense. Also, your baby will be covered for the first thirty days of life no matter what, during that time you need to apply for Medicaid and get on the program that can help you until you can find a job, which you do need to do. I'm not an advocate for welfare, but I do believe they are there to help until you can get on your feet. Perhaps there's an on campus job for you. You'll be okay, you just need to stay focused and get in gear planning ahead. Your baby's father needs to help you out too, if he doesn't, make him pay child support. You can do this, keep your chin up.
2006-09-14 03:51:25 · answer #10 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋