What guidance woud a lady give to a male???

Question

Male 33 married and not happy. My wife and I are both not happy for different reasons, we want it to work although it seems we spend alot of time fighting. We have tried counseling yet still fighting, she is aware of my concerns and I am aware of hers. She now thinks an open marriage might help? We do love each other and do not want to separate... Will this help.... have any ladies entered a situation like this... did it work?

Answer 1

You could try it and see, but you need to be prepared for the consequences. She might like being single more than being married, and you might too. Try seperating first, give it a month, and if your both happier, then you have your answer. If your miserable, then there is hope for your marriage. Try counseling again if you both really want to work things out, listen and try the things they tell you, don't just disregard it. Its takes 100% on both sides to make it work. Good luck.

Answer 2

I don't think this will help as you will probably find yourselves drifting apart. If you go out and have fun in an open relationship, the thought of going back to married life as usual will not appeal. How about separating just for a few weeks, but on the condition you don't see other people. You might see how you really feel then. Good luck.

Answer 3

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However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?

You must realize first that, you do have a choice. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter. How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions? While we cannot, must not and in no way manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself. You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you. Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Open marriage .... I think opening the door and leaving would be better.

I wonder about your statements "we want it to work", "we do love each other"... I don't think she wants it as much as you. If you, as you say, know what each other concerns are and you still can't work towards resolving them, there possibly is no resolve to be had.

It will probably only give you one more thing to fight about.

Answer 6

what do u normally fight about, what topic always starts the fight. money, bills, inadequate love shown, kids? it will be helpful to add more details to understand the root cause. post again many time over. thanks!

Answer 7

GET DIVORCED, MOVE ON. DON'T BRING MORE DRAMA INTO THE PICTURE. I DO NOT BELIEVE IN EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS.

Answer 8

I got divorced instead...let me know if it works for you...wouldn't for me though:)