I know that my man would never cheat on me and that he loves me but for some reason I cannot stop being insecure - even after 5 years! He has never done anything to make me suspect he will but I just keep imagining him with other women and things like that. Its driving me mad and its driving him mad aswell! I don't want him to get really upset with me so how do I stop doing this to myself?!?
2006-09-14 03:38:34 · 19 answers · asked by shepherdess7980 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Know that every woman feels this way one time or other but u r freicking him out and he'll soon be telling u he wants a break but he really loves u.Try to keep your such fears to yourself,handle them and see the effect it'll have on him!
2006-09-14 03:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by kareen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way would be to see your doctor and find someone who you can talk to about your insecurity. Insecurities are from within and usually have nothing to do with other people. You'll have to look within, and after 5 years of this, you definitely need someone to talk to -- get professional help, or even a support group before it starts to drive him away.
2006-09-14 10:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although i havent been with my man that long, i get the same feeling when he goes out (without me specially) you never know what the girls are like. and everytime he goes out he never puts his wedding ring on, so really he gives me excuses to not trust him, but i think you should tell him how you feel and why you feel so insecure, maybe its something he is doing which he might not notice that is making you feel this way.
i get to the point sometimes i even check his phone and i put on so it saves all sent messages just so i can check. quite often we have rows and everytime we have a row about something else thats always brought up as well.
i personally think you should sit down and chat with him about everything and see where you go from there
2006-09-14 10:52:35 · answer #3 · answered by sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to explain, and even harder to do. How do you feel about yourself? Do you feel like there is too much competition for you? Sometimes it's our own insecurities that effect our relationship. Try your best not to feel insecure because it will ruin your relationship. If your doing stuff like checking his message, etc. try to forget the password and stuff like that, especially if you never had a reason to suspect anything.
2006-09-14 10:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by ANGEL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the previous comments about talking to a councillor. Maybe there is something in your past rather than your general Psyche that is causing this anguish. Or maybe you will find out that you are generally an insecure person who needs continually reassured..
2006-09-14 11:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by advent m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try & stop being so insecure, because you WILL push him into the arms of another; no one wants to be with someone who is so insecure.
A man wants a confident woman; and a confident woman is sexy!
Look at it this way - if he didn't love you anymore, he wouldn't still be there.
2006-09-14 10:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by puma* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all feel like that at some point in our life even men its just a case of trust and it sounds to me that your lacking a bit of confidence.Maybe you are needing to give yourself a bit of a extra pampering get your hair done nails done new outfit you will be amazed at how much that will boost your confidence go for it girl.
2006-09-14 10:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by missy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about it as simple as that!!!! It's just in your mind remind yourself the next time a thought like this pops up. Not to mention tell him that you are secure about your feelings and his towards you and that you are totally confident and full of trust for him b/c he is probably thinkign that you lack trust from him and thats not healthy!!! But good luck and have a wonderful day...
2006-09-14 10:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when youve been hurt b4 u think everyman is the same its not true there are decent men out there and if you keep pushing the issue he might just leave try to explain how you feel u neva know he might just suprise you and help u thru this it sounds like its you who has issues so id try to sort them out
try not to get wound up about things that could happen and enjoy eachother while your together not waste your life waiting for the worst
2006-09-14 10:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by bexieboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest i dont think there is anyway you can stop doing it as it seems there maybe a underlaying reason for you to feel this after a long time together so maybe you speak to someone professional who can help you, as you dont want it to ruin your relationship. My dad left when i was a kid and i was always affraid that guys were going to leave me so its best to try and work out where this is coming from. good luck
2006-09-14 12:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋