same states anymore though, but we constantly keep in touch. I think she's a really amazing person with a heart of gold, I really adore her. What should I do? Should I tell her or will it be impossible to have a good relationship since we live far apart. I also really treasure our friendship, so I wouldn't want to risk losing that. But, being honest to myself I love her.
2006-09-14 03:26:18 · 22 answers · asked by horrorfan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes I have!!! welcome to club...
Go ahead tell her... . Propose....
Be honest.... If you can be honest with your friend ? with whom you will be honest?
Since she is your Friend she will understand.... Also tell her that you are ready to take NO for answer but not ready to lose the friend ship.....
Do not lose this chance...
All the best buddy....
2006-09-14 03:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by Crabby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i have fallen in love with a female friend. Best relationship i was ever in but distance finished it. I was in the same situation myself. It could be the best relationship you ever had if she felt the same way, but trust me, distance will NOT work. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Although, if you love her that much you could try moving in with her but i'll bet any money you have a job/family you would be hesitant about leaving behind. Anyway, if she's a good friend, it shouldn't change a whole lot. Ask youself this, when you're lying on your death bed, what would you wish you had done?
2006-09-14 10:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I think you should go for it. The only thing is you never know how she will react to it. It could make things weird between the two of you, but if you don't try, then your probably just going to wonder what could or would have been. Me and my boyfriend, who I am deeply in love with, have been together for a year. We were friends first. We werent friends for as long as you and your friend, but we love each other so much and I think he is the person I want to marry. If one of us never would have made a move then we would never had experienced something so great. Now he's my best friend and I love him so much.
2006-09-14 10:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by bbevans2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her and let her be the judge of whether she wants a long distance relationship. If you are truly friends then she will still want your friendship even if she doesn't feel the same way about you. I totally get where you are coming from on this one. I have been friends with someone for two years and we are very close. I am in love with him but don't know where I stand. My sister and brother-in-law are very close with him and told me that he was in love with me and that I needed to do something about it. Hopefully both of our situations will work out the way we want them to. Good Luck!
2006-09-14 10:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this can be tricky, I guess try to feel her out. I would try and schedule a visit with her and tell her face to face if you can. You will have to decide what is more important either stifle your true feelings or take that risk. I would hope by just letting her know your heart she wouldn't freak out. At least if you told her and she turned you doen you may hurt but could move on. If you never tell her how can you move on with what isn't resolved. Good Luck, my heart really does go out to you.
2006-09-14 10:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like that in high school, we were friends for 4 years. We both had feelings for each other, but we were scared about losing our friendship, we took the risk. It was worth it, we have been married for 9 years, and he is still my best friend. So I think you should tell her you feelings, but no matter what happens respect each other ALWAYS.
2006-09-14 10:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Loreli♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, but it was in the same state. I did not know I felt this way till she told me she was getting married. I was crushed in an instance. And instead of telling her I let her get away. The biggest mistake I have ever made.....aside from marrying my ex-wife. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her and remember what we could of had.
2006-09-14 11:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by shaman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, don't hesitate to do that. She will be shocked. But you will get an answer to your feelings. Yes or no.
But if you hide your feelings it will be harder for you to see her marriage with an another man.
You will decide whether losing her as a wife or losing her as a friend. It is your choice. And the determining factor is your feelings and future plans about her as a wife and your relation and future plans about her as a friend.
Don't do anything that will make you regret in the future, or do it that by not doing it you will regret in future.
2006-09-14 10:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Saido 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a problem I have now, my good friend and I have mutually fallen in love with each other and I didnt know how he felt until last night, the thing is we are in different countries now, and Im married. You should always let her know you love her, whether it be as a friend, or more. What if she or you dies one day and you never got the chance.
2006-09-14 10:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Rae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im in love with my best friend too. but we live in different countries so iv never told him cos it couldnt work out cos we will never live in the same country. so i dont want to bother risking the friendship. its up to you. i guess diferent states is better then countries but if u believe ull be physically together some day then u shud, but if not then dont because long distance, especially from the start dont work out
2006-09-14 10:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by carcaterra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely tell her! Love doesn't come along every day. I would love to fall in love with my best friend...you already know each others quirks and you know you get along and have things in common, what a great way to start a relationship!
2006-09-14 10:33:59 · answer #11 · answered by naughtykitty94 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋