2006-09-14 03:19:05 · 11 answers · asked by Blk Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No you are most definitely not crazy & your wife should be more sensitive to your feelings. I don't think you need medication at all, it only blocks problems out, never cures them. I would suggest some counselling to help you come to terms with your childhood. Traumatic events that happen in our childhood come back to haunt us in adult life & they need to be dealt with properly in order for you to be able to move on with your life. You do not say why your upbringing was sad so it is difficult for me to comment any further.
I lost my mother to cancer when I was 8 years old & my grief came out years later when i was in my teenage years & then in to my twenties. It saddens me when I realise how much I missed out on with my mother, especially when I see how close some of my friends are to their mums. But then when I think about it, I count myself lucky that I had those 8 years with my Mam & I knew what it was like to have the unconditional love of a mother, whereas my friend, her mother is still alive but rejected her from birth, I think that is sadder. I wish you all strength & courage in the world for your future. May it be a happy one.
2006-09-14 03:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by EmmaB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need medication you need to talk with someone about this! This is VERY common. You are not alone by a long shot. I'm not going to get into anything too personal in this forum BUT if you don't talk about this with a professional like a therapist or even just a trusted friend it will never go away, believe me! You should be able to find one for ree very easily. Medication can't get rid of your memories anyway. And no, you are not crazy but if you don't do something to help aleviate this greif that you are feeling then it may end up breaking you down, emotionally & menatally. Do your soul some good & please, please talk about what has happen to you with someone, okay?
2006-09-14 10:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're almost certainly not "crazy." Clearly, you have been emotionally damaged by your past.
It might improve the quality of your life to talk to a counselor about how you can deal with these memories. This doesn't mean you're "crazy," either; it's the emotional equivalent of going to a physical therapist to rebuild the muscles in your leg after you've been in a cast for six months.
And that's what it comes down to -- quality of life. Do these flashbacks interrupt things you want to be doing (time with your present family, leisure, work, etc.)? Are they continuing to have a negative effect on your present life? If so, you don't have to endure them, you can talk to a professional who can help you work through it and understand ways of dealing with the past, and removing its power to continue hurting you in the present.
2006-09-14 10:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not crazy just not letting go of the past. The things that cause you sadness have long since past, they are unchangeable and need to be left in the past. Look to the new days and opportunities ahead of you and worry about the things that you can make a difference, don't lament or live in the past you have no control over it and it seldom accomplishes anything but bad feelings or ill will! Life is good live in the now!
2006-09-14 10:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not crazy for feeling hurt, she is not very senitive. she is blessed not to have a sad family upbringing. and you don,t need medication. you just need a good friend to talk to when old hurtful feelings come back. you spouse should be the person to share these feelings with, too bad you don't have that kind of closeness. just remind yourself that even though you could not control your childhood you do have some control now. and to the oposite , if kindness wasn't showed to you then be the kinddes person you can be. i grew up in a abusive family and i raised my kids with love and understanding. even when discipline was handed out they knew the love didn't change.i have a healthy family but once in awhile old memories suface and when they do i tell myself that is the past , i refuse to give it room to grow and i remind myself how blessed i am today. and i'm blessed to have a spouse who listens.
2006-09-14 10:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by lefftylucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't need medical attention. Some times when bad things happen in our past it's always going to get to us at times. I have had a really hard childhood and I know that it is going to affect me for the rest of my life. Does that mean that I should go to a doctor only to have him medicate me? I know that's not the way that I go with it. Sure we have good days and bad days, it's all in how you deal with the bad days or for you when you get these flash backs. You need to find a way so that you can deal with it so that you can get on with the future and not dwelling on the past.
2006-09-14 10:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jessye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be you need to talk to someone about your problem, or you can work it out yourself, the way it is done, talk about it, and excepting what happened to you, are your parents still living? have you talked to them? you have to get it off your chest. You do not need medication, you have to learn to live with the situation, and by the grace of God you survived it. And move on and be a better man, and a better parent, and member of society. You are not crazy for being hurt. May God Bless you.
2006-09-14 10:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you still have issues regarding your childhood that have not been resolved yet, you have every right to feel like that and she should support you not put you on a bunch of pills to shut you up. Speak with a therapist about whats happened in your life and that may help you release supressed feelings.
2006-09-14 10:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about meds ..But, you need to talk to someone if your having flash backs...counseling maybe what you need you & your Doctor should discuss it.. She loves you and is trying to help you ..I see no need to be hurt she sounds very worried.Best wishes to you both..Thanks
2006-09-14 10:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by pitterpatter47 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you need a way to deal with the problems
2006-09-14 10:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by jerry k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋