My husbands step dad is alot younger than his wife, Shes at the point in her life where she doesn't want to have sex. He began cheating on her. He's a trucker and away from home 6 days a week. She constantly nit picks him and doesnt work or anything. I know it isnt right for him to cheat on her, but i don't feel like its our place to say anything either. Would it be best to pretend we don't know, or send her an anonymous letter with the details and evidence?
2006-09-14 03:17:08 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Cheating is not right. If your husband was cheating on you wouldnt you want to know? I would tell her so she can be prepared. They need to work out there problems... Good Luck..
2006-09-14 03:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by momof3isme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that hearing face to face from someone she loves would be best. You could even tell the cheater that you know his secret and if he doesn't fess up you will personally let the cat out of the bag. But give him the chance to tell the truth before you rat on him. Remember no one deserves to be cheated on. If this man is unhappy with his wife he should just leave, not deceive
2006-09-14 03:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by misti 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't send an anonymous letter. I would sit her down for a talk. Maybe she already knows or suspects? If you know this for sure and you care for her at all you should show her some respect and tell her face to face. She deserves to know this.
2006-09-14 03:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gather good hard evidence and then sit down with her privately and tell her.
She may feel betrayed by you if she finds out about it and then also finds out that you know.
You also need to be prepared for the possibility that she already knows that he is cheating.
2006-09-14 03:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by jennypoo803 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STAY OUT OF IT!!!! their is a good possibility that she has a clue but dosnt think she needs to make it everyones business, it is a private matter so no anonymous letters, might make things worse,maybe they will work things out
2006-09-14 03:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by legal help 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. If you tell her she might not believe you. If you don't tell her and she finds out that you knew she'll be hurt you didn't tell her....So maybe point out little things, open her eyes to things you've noticed, give her the idea that he might be cheating. It might be best that she figures it out for herself. I imagine it would be very humiliating to find out such a thing from your son and daughter in law.
2006-09-14 03:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by yes darling 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The messenger is always the one to get killed.
Thats why they started the saying "don't kill the messenger"
Stay out of it, if she wants to see it - she will. If she doesn't want sex now - then maybe she is aware of the cheating, and is willing to over look it. If you bring it to her attention then she will have no choice but to acknowledge it.
Maybe she is happy with her current situation-
Keep out of her business..... It is not your life to mess up.
It is all hers and his.
T-=
2006-09-14 03:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by Night Train 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your best deal is to steer clear of any involvement ~ so write her a unnanimous letter~ and drop it off on her car windshield ! Have someone else write it and drop it off ! If, you plant the seed ~ sit back and watch what developes ! As long as you are not linked to the situation ~ you are better off !
2006-09-14 03:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jo Jo Gunn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not your place to tell her unless you have an ulterior motive such as taking pleasure out of hurting an obviously unhappy woman. Her marriage isn't any of your business. His behavior will eventually catch up with him.
2006-09-14 03:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's going to be alot more heartbroken once she finds out you both knew the whole time. It will be hard to break it to her, maybe it should be your partner who does it alone? She may not feel so intimidated that way.
2006-09-14 03:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋