My friend wants to go out of town with her husband to gamble with other couples. She doesn't trust her grown daughter to stay home alone and wants to secretly pay my daughter, who is four years older to keep her busy, go out to eat, go to movies etc. so that the kid won't end up doing drugs while mom is gone. We think if the kid was a real friend she would help my daughter get responsible things accomplished rather than be further behind from playing clown for a weekend. We decided against it because if the kid DOES get ahold of drugs or anything happens, they would all blame my daughter. Its their way, to blame others.
Should her mom and dad leave town if they are so worried for her welfare? Are we sorry friends? She has been missing for a week and a half and now been home for about a week. Suffers from siezures due to xanax abuse and is not allowed to drive. Mom gambles to get her mind off of kid when she won't call in and all mom can do is worry. Blame us when we've stayed
2006-09-14 03:00:51 · 6 answers · asked by hopkinsezy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she was important to her she wouldn't just talk about being worried and go off to gamble. Might be one of those people who use their children to make themselves seem like a good parent. Like trying to make herself look concerned by creating problems with her child. A truly concerned parent would give it more than lip service! I would put my daughter in a hospitol if she was taking drugs and siezing. Would she want your daughter to find hers unconcious and not put her in the hospitol? Would she blame your daughter for drawing public attention to their dirty laundry for trying to help someone that is out of it on drugs. It is crazy for a friend to want you to put your child in that position AND expect her to entertain the child for an entire weekend. crazy. Not much of a friend IMO.
2006-09-14 16:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad, why would they risk being away if they are so worried about her? They seem to tell you all their business so you must be very old friends. You nor your daughter should ever put yourself out to help someone that will blame you if something happens to a child that they evidently have failed to bring safely to adulthood. Were they gone alot while she grew up? Sounds like they put other things before her and refuse to accept any responsiblity for who she is. You are a smart friend, her daughter should want to help others out, not use them. That is probably the nutshell. She was raised by inconsiderate people, who set a bad example of how to treat others, leaving her unwanted as a friend, isolating her with the big WHY? (doesn't anyone like me?) and she turned to drugs to fix the sad and lonely. Xanax actually make people depressed, so she is making it worse by taking them.
2006-09-14 10:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by mspriveye 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her parents can't expect you and your family to take responsibilty for her actions. What she needs to do, is stay home with her daughter (rather than escaping) and spend some quality time with her herself!!! That's why the child is doing drugs, something is lacking at home. ATTENTION!!! It's her own fault her daughter is doing such things, she can't expect someone else to keep an eye on her while she's gone away gambling. If her mom shows such a weakness for gambling, how is the daughter supposed to not have tendencies to become addicted to substance??? It doesn't make sense to me why any parent could be so selfish to leave their child at home alone who is suspected of such activities. If she's not willing to help her child, she needs to put her in rehab, where people actually CARE about your recovery, not just willing to pay in hopes to cover something up or justify her own actions. What messed up parent wouldn't care for their child anymore than what she does? God bless their family.
2006-09-14 10:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u did right it is not ur daughters responsibility 2 keep this child safe. the parents should concern themselves with there child n not going away 4 the weekend. especially since the kid just came backe home. they must be out of there mind. they already know she has a history with drugs....they r not thinking.
if they cannot understand why u said no then I say u did not lose a friend just relized that who u thought where friends in actuality where not.
u did right. they should stay home with there daughter and work out there problems.
2006-09-14 10:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not your kids responsibility to watch her because you're right if somethig goes wrong they'll blame your daughter. you're not sorry friends you're smart enough to recognize what will go wrong and don't want to be involed. if they're that concerned they need to stay home and try and get their daughter help
2006-09-14 10:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, a real friend is there to have fun, and talk when you need it.
2006-09-14 10:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋