Larry is a good friend of mine, but i'm curious to his sexual preference... He's been married, but seems to really enjoy play and the touch of men... I've heard that there really wasn't such a thing as someone who could enjoy both... Is this true or false?
2006-09-14 02:49:47 · 33 answers · asked by ? 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes - Bisexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation.
Heterosexuality and homosexuality are only the two extremes of sexual orientation. Sexual impulses and attractions are not the same with everyone, and in the middle of these two 'extremes' is bisexuality.
Some in the gay and lesbian communities accuse those who self-identify as bisexual of duplicity, believing they are really homosexuals who engage in heterosexual activity merely to remain socially acceptable. They may be accused of "not doing their part" in gaining acceptance of "true" homosexuality. Some gay and lesbian people may also suspect that a self-described bisexual is merely a homosexual in the initial stage of questioning their presumed heterosexuality, and will eventually accept that they are lesbian or gay; this is expressed by a glib saying in gay culture: "Bi now, gay later."
These situations can and do take place, but do not appear to be true of the majority of self-described bisexuals. Nonetheless, bisexuals do sometimes experience lesser acceptance (unfairly in my opinion) from gay and lesbian people, because of their declared orientation.
2006-09-14 06:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by rp_iowa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely false that you can't enjoy both, many of us have enjoyed being with both men and women. So yes, there is such a thing as being bisexual -being sexually attracted to both men & women. Some are attracted to one sex more than the other & some about 50/50, but a lot of people have had sex and/or a relationship with both members of their own and the opposite sex.
2006-09-14 14:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is such a thing as "bi", which means capable of falling in (sexual) love both with same sex persons and opposite sex persons.
What you heard is false, and probably stems from that person's own agenda. Both straights and extreme gays tend to deny the existence of bisexual people.
I am bi
2006-09-14 02:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course therre is such a thing as being bi......I'm living proof. I enjoy sex with men or women, for me it is just that, sex....I don't think I would ever be able to fall in love with a man (and to me, that's the reason I'm not gay) but in my opinion, making love to both sexes offers you more than you could have otherwise....it took me over 20 years to realize the fact that because I have sex with men, it doesn't make me gay....I still love my wife and having sex with her, the times I have sex with men are for me, and something that a woman just can't give me.
2006-09-14 03:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by bimale694u 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bi-sexuality is all a question of definition. inspite of intercourse all of us have factors of interest that kind the inspiration of the popular public of our family members. How a strategies we take those relationships and the obstacles we set for 'platonic' to 'warm' relationships are how we label our family members. there are fairly some purple blooded adult males who've very close relationships with adult males, yet they may be mortified with any advice it ought to be something different than platonic. So the place is that boundary and how that's defined is the place the bi-sexuality comes into it. For me? i will see acceptance in women persons even kind close relationships, yet that spark or connection which defines the version between close friendship and intimate courting has not at all befell. subsequently i wouldn't in any respect evaluate myself bi-sexual, by ability of the comparable token i don't decrease value the possibility it would ensue it merely hasn't yet, in spite of the undeniable fact that it has with the comparable intercourse! subsequently in answer on your question the flexibility for bi-sexuality lies in all persons - in hassle-free terms some persons are greater open to it than others and (reckoning on our very own stories) greater mushy with donning that particular label.
2016-10-14 23:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, bisexuality is real, especially in men.
However, from your description of Larry, I don't see any signs that he could be bi. Is he sexually attracted to both men and women? Has he given you any sense that he is attracted to men, even to you? "To enjoy play" doesn't mean much to me. And "the touch of men" means even less -- not all men cringe from the touch of another man, esecially if it is a close friend or relative. Are you confusing "homoSOCIAL" behavior (enjoying the company of your own gender at work, at play, when socializing) to "homoSEXUAL" behavior or biSEXUAL behavior?
They are not the same thing. And in many cultures, like the Arab culture, it is common for men to embrace one another.
2006-09-14 07:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone starts out bisexual. Then we are conditioned to be str8.At a very young age boys play with boys and girls with girls with no fear of reprisal. But then parents will positively reinforce good behaviour and any kind of ambiguous sexual behaviour will be shunned. Some people are victims of sexual abuse and by the very act of abuse are conditioned to explore less traditional forms of sexual pleasure, such as fetishes, oral sex, butt sex, exhibitionism, group sex, gay sex, bi sex etc.
Many confirmed str8 people has had gay,fetish oriented, group or other less traditional sex. If we lived in a open minded society, a person's sexual appetite or experiences would not be important.
2006-09-14 04:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That depends.
I do believe there are some who are truly Bisexual.
I do also believe that there are some who go through a period of questioning before they come to the realization that they are actually homosexual in which they haven't completely accepted their feelings.
While I do feel it is true that we are "born" homosexual, that many go through a period of time in which they are attempting to live up to the beliefs and pressures of those around them, "preferring" the opposite sex because that is what they are taught they are "supposed" to do instead of accepting their attraction for the same sex. During the "transitional" period many will still cling to the notion that they are bisexual, preferring both genders, but that does eventually fade with time.
That is not denying that there are "true" bisexuals out there.
2006-09-14 02:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is such a thing. Many people are bi.
2006-09-14 02:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
some people are bi sexual. whats a big deal about this. I guess they have the right to live their life the way they want. But isnt your friend married?? then wouldnt be that cheating on his wife????
2006-09-14 02:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by Coolguy_punjabi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋