I do realize this is sad, but I was wondering if other women were like this.
2006-09-14 02:39:59 · 24 answers · asked by Jennifer L 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, I thought I was the only one in this boat. It is good to know that there are others that share the same dilemma.
Circumstances in my marriage is what let to me being disgusted with being with him. But with me, I want it to work so bad, some times I can make my mind look past those things and I can enjoy it every once in awhile.
But there have definately been times where I have started crying because I just didn't like him on me. And there has been times when he was in me and had no feeling at all.
I have thought about divorce but really don't have a good valid reason to leave at this point. I do however know that there is a lot of love and passion in me that needs to come out.
I am waiting patiently on what is to come.
2006-09-14 03:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by WANDERER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i am attracted in all ways possible to my husband and if you are not attracted to him sexually it is not the end of the world, because marriage is not based on sex alone so it may actually be 55% good thing this way you both have time to focus on other things. THe other 45% is BAD. Becasue sex does come u and with you not being attracted to him that way you probably wanna cheat or do you?
2006-09-14 03:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by tawanna h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if your not in love with him anymore. I was married to my ex husband for 2 yrs. and eventually got to where I couldn't stand to look at him. I went through some really bad times with him though. It's a really long story so I won't get into it, but you should ask yourself why you don't find him attractive now. You apparently did before you were married.
2006-09-14 02:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Due to abuse issues in my past, I wasn't "sexually" attracted to *anybody*- I was open about this to my future husband, and he's been an absolute angel about working with me on that, both before and since we've been married. He's physically very attractive; it's just the sexual part I had trouble with.
2006-09-14 04:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by Megan S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sad. I am not married but I know the feeling. You love him, and love and attraction do not get along sometimes. But maybe you should try to talk to him and tell him your problem. You both should try to have a new outfit as often as possible, go to the gym, make bathroom with lots of cream for bath and with candels. Do not make sex simple without a "start". Try to find ou what do you like best about him : ***, muscles, eyes. If you like his ***, buy him some sexy sexy sexy jeans. If you like his eyes buy him a shirt that puts them in evidence .Make him be more sexy in your eyes. But tell him as well, maybe he feels the same and then the problem will be solved. Trust me, he is your husband and you should not have problems to talk with him: tell him anything...That means trust...
2006-09-14 02:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by ota marmota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I discovered that a few years ago. It is very sad I just go thru the motions and even feel grossed out at times. I have no way out so I stay.
2006-09-14 02:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lexxie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. I'm rather lucky. My husband has a physical job, plays basketball and is on a football league....he's a hottie still and he's 42! HOWEVER, there are days where no matter how cute he is, the adjusting of his unit, the belching or farting in public does make him less than appealing.
2006-09-14 02:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not straight away but certainly things get boring. Marriage is a learning curve...and its the open communication that is necessary....being open...experimenting..trying lots of new things. together...why do you think there are millions of swingers in this world. It doesnt mean that they dont love their partners...its just that life is short...and can be boring with the same routine and same person over and over..and NO I am not a swinger I can just understand why people go into that lifestyle....would you be happy sharing your hubby? Might be a possibility?? Give it a try!!
2006-09-14 02:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I haven't experienced this. I am just attracted to my husband as I was 12 years ago when I married him.
2006-09-14 02:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh baby I do. I really realized it after I got married. Not only the problems of being married to him made me sick but the look and thought of having sex with him made me sick.
2006-09-14 02:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋