which child do u think is happier?

Question

last evening i was watching this news cast it stated that children of seperated parents are less happy than parents of an unhappy marriage as long as there is no abuse i for one always thought it would be better to seperate cuz i figure your kids could be happier if the parents are happier so what do u think is the happier child. this news cast also mention the reason for the child of seperated parents being less happy is they always have to be shipped off to the opposite parents house they have to adapt to sets of rules

Answer 1

Staying in a marriage for the children is wrong.
It is much happier for them to see a good loving realtionship instead of arguing all the time bewteen husband and spouse, so in this situation wherre they are seperated already their should be harmony instead of all this fuss.

Answer 2

That study was done on divorced children's immediate happiness. This was done years ago, however, there was a follow up to it. They interviewed the same group of kids five years later and the children were glad that their parent's separated. Although they still hated the schedule change, they admitted to appreciating the one on one time with each parent as well as seeing their parents happy again. Of course, came the bonuses of two birthdays, two holidays, etc, which they also commented on.

I deal with children who have divorced parents on a routine basis. The one thing I can definately say is that the reaction of children solely depends upon what action the parents choose to take. If it's bitter and the kids are dragged in to it, the kids are unhappy. If they keep their priorities straight, put the needs of the children first, then the children, although they don't wish for it to happen, have a better understanding and are able to cope much better.

Answer 3

I don't agree with the newscast at all. I think that if the parents are happier apart then they should be apart. I would think that the kids would rather have two homes with loving parents than to be in an environment where noone is happy. Of course a child will always want their parents to be together, that's a normal feeling. I think that in the long run though they would have better upbringing from parents that are happier apart than together!

Answer 4

The child of a seperated parent is often torn in allegiance to their parents. They don't feel free to love the one that they don't live with. On any given day the absent parent isn't readily available to the child for whatever reason. The truth is that they will blame themselves. When a parent complains about the other parent that child takes it personnally because she/he is also part of that parent. A child will adapt most assuredly and can become successful but no I don't believe they are as happy and secure as a child who is lives in a traditional family.

Answer 5

Maybe at first, but in the long run I think they are happier of you split...one happy parent is better than two unhappy ones. Besides you don't want your kids to believe that an unhappy marriage is ok or normal.

Answer 6

I think if you ask the grown children of divorce, they will tell you that having divorced parents has all but permanently wounded most of them. There are actual studies on this, stating exactly what was on the news. I am one myself, and even though I am all grown up, my parents unintentionally create this drama that children of married people don't have. I love my parents, and despite being divorced they are good parents, but if I had to choose, I'd rather have had ones that stayed married.

Answer 7

I think it is possible that the child with both parents is happier. However it does not say that the child with both parents, who no longer love each other, goes on to have good, healthy relationships. More likely staying with someone they do not like because they think that is the norm.

Answer 8

that's possible. but i think that a happy home is best for the child. but if that's not possible then if the parents truly cant get along then they must separate and make their selves happy in order to make their child happy. your right if the kid is in two diff. houses they'll be much happier since they parents would be vs. one unhappy house.

Answer 9

i can see where if there is no violence then the child in a two parent family would be happier. children don't understand adult love ,, all they know is they have 2 parents there for them. if the child is not seeing hateful things then they don't really understand the whole thing

Answer 10

I believe children/adults/human beings in general need security and this comes by being in their comfort zone. A sense of having some control over our our destiny. We generally feel uncomfortable about change, and would rather put up with things being a little rough and familiar, than satisfactory and foreign.