Get over a guy I've liked for over 2 years?? Yuo people tell me to do it, but that's way easier said than done.
2006-09-14 02:19:06 · 12 answers · asked by K 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'll tell you how I did it.
When I was 15 I fell in love for the first time with this guy that i thought was the absolute best thing ever. We dated until just before my 17th birthday, we even told out parents we were getting engaged on our 18th birthdays, we had pre-engagement rings.
Anyway, turns out he was just a kid, or, in 16 year old terms, a major self centered jackass just trying to make himself happy and didnt give a crap about me.
We broke up, but we stayed friends. It was TORTURE. I mean I thought i was going to marry this guy, build and house and have his babies. We had this whole life together in my mind. We had planned everything.
To get over him, I had to distance myself from him. If he was going to the same thing as me, i would generally bow out and not go, or avoid him completely. If we had the same classes, i'd go to the cousiler and change my schedule, or if i had no choice I would make sure i had friends around me and remind them to make ure i didnt sit there and drool over him. I also cut all communication. We stopped talking on the phone, on the net, anywhere else.
I wasnt rude, I jsut avoided him. I couldnt be around him and not be in love with him, so i had to cut myself away from him in every area of my life so that i could fall out of love with him.
And along with all that, I focused my attention on making myself a better person, so next time i would know me, and what i expected in a man and relationship. i also spent a lot of time praying.
Its important too as a girl to realize that there are a lot of guys that come and go, than we like and date, that we fall in love with and chase around. But when it comes down to that one special person who's meant forever he finds you out, he fights to see you, he chases you around, and you become the object of affection, instead trying to make yourself important to him, he already decided from the begining that you're everything. Thats how you know the difference.
Its hard to find that person with teenage hormones, especially because the vast majority of guys at this age are capable of real love, but its not selfless, and its more about physical contact and the thought of sex.
So, separate yourself and get to know who you are and what you want out of life and love, and find good hobbies to occupy your time between this guy and the right guy. Because no matter what person you're with, you still have to be you, and you cant be you if you dont know what you like.
;) This is really the best time of your life. I promise. You'll look back on these horrible emotional years and long to go back to them.
2006-09-14 02:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get over a guy I've liked for over 2 years??
Liked is past tense as to like or love or being loved.
I would say not worry so much on what is or what will be, but what is done now!
2006-09-14 09:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are way too young to even be worrying about this stuff!
Have fun! Do good in school! Find a way to help someone else who needs your help! Right now, your parents and your siblings, if you have any, are your best friends.
There are many paths in life! I know, I have checked most out!
There will be plenty of time in your life for romance! Right now you may want to try to discover all the choices that lay before you.
Have fun but be safe!
2006-09-14 09:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Chocolate! I got your email. I will contact you later. Anyway, well you can't get over a guy right away. It takes time. Time heals all pain. You need to get into activities that interest you. Keep busy. And most importantly, read your Bible. God is a healer, and His Word has all of the answers.
Hope this helps,
TW
2006-09-14 11:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun.. maybe u shuld go out wiv tha girls 4 a good nite out and meet sumone new!? I think if this man was as serious as u r.. hed b urs right now! Get over him and find sumone thats gonna treat u like u shuld b treated and loved as much as u wuld love them! This man sounds like hes not interested and u'll only end up increasingly depressed!
2006-09-14 10:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by charlie_baby1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not going to be easy getting over someone after that amount of time.time is the only cure. even then you'll still have a thought or two about him. get involved in activities that interest you. writing poetry or stories, volunteering at a retirement home or hospital, learn to paint,draw,crochet,take up an interest in photography. in other words, keep busy!!!! it'll help time pass.
2006-09-14 09:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by bama g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, I've been trying to talk to u since yesterday, I was worried about your depression it's nice that u r trying to get over that guy, just try to find another guy, or just tell ure self that he's not 4 u, but just know that what u r feelling 4 him is not healthy.
Love Yah!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-14 16:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret is to stay busy with hobbies, school, or family. I wouldn't hang with the people you both used to go out with, be friends but back away slowly.
2006-09-14 09:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by FANNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else. He's over you, right? Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Consider therapy.
2006-09-14 09:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at the pros and cons side of things. if talking ya out of it ain't going to do it write something down on a piece of paper. and then figure it out from there.
2006-09-14 09:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by crazyoverhee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋