Hi first of all this happened......me and my boyfriend have been 2gether for 5 years,we have not been good a while a few months...he has asked me to move out said he doesnt love me anymore then he says he does but not like he did .said he wants some space i can understand that ,,its just its not good for me i love him so much and dont wanna be apart he gets so mad when im still here been 3 days since he said go ive arranged to go 2 my dads but its miles away from my jobs...do you reckon ...hes so mad with me he has really hurt me by saying all this but we did nothing but argue ...he said he wants me 2 move out 4 a few weeks do you think its permanent or do you think it will make us stronger .....xxxxx
NOW............he slept in his sisters room last night i had arranged to go to my dads 2day HOWEVER !! i made him a cup of tea knocked the door went in and i said rob you wont see me now as im going ....he kissed me on the lips and hugged me ,i really liked that..i grabbed this hand
2006-09-14 02:15:34 · 13 answers · asked by skinnyminniekitten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and sqeezed it,told him i dont wanna go and i love him,he is going to a stag do this weekend to wales he will be gone all weekend ..he said to me you can stay here if you want and he said when i come back from wales il take it from there what does this mean???does it mean he wants to sort things aout and get back 2gether?????
2006-09-14 02:16:55 · update #1
I DONT DESERVE TO FEEL LIKE TAKEING TABLETS DO I??THAT I CANT TAKE THEPAIN ANYMORE
2006-09-14 02:19:58 · update #2
Ok. First of all I really feel for you. You've heard the saying that if you love something you have to let it go and if comes back it's yours for sure right? First thing don't back him into a corner, don't preasure him. All relationships reach a point where someone is unsure. Don't take anything he says to heart, he's confused, and he's trying to justify his feelings. So he may try and blame it on you. If he doesn't understand why he is feeling the way he does he is trying too hard to make sense of it. The easiest way to avoid things being said that can sting, you need to get out of there for now. Let him clear his head and get his thoughts straight. He can't do that with you there. It is hard to think about things when the person who tugs on your heart strings is around you. It makes it difficult to determine the difference between what your heart is feeling and what your head if thinking. If you really love him then you need to give him his time. Take it from me, pushing will only make it worse. I was with my ex for 3 yrs, and off and on all through high school, he left when I was 5 months pregnant. I think that when he freaked I pushed him too much and he shut me out even more. Had I backed off he maybe have come back to me. But when you are afraid of loosing something it is normal to want to latch on, to hold on for dear life. Try and refraim from doing this. If he didn't love you then he wouldn't be acting so confused. There comes a point in a relationship though when a person will decide if the love is enough. Let him be without you for a while, give him a chance to miss you. Leave him with a message, tell him you love him very much and you don't want to loose him, but his happiness matters to you, so you are going to give him his space. Tell him that you will be waiting, but for him not to take forever because it is not fair to your heart. Go about your life, and do your best not to dwell on it. Don't call him, let him call you only then will you truely know if he is missing you. Make it clear that you don't want to loose him so he doesn't feel insecure or feel that he has to make a quick decision for fear that you won't be there when he has cleared his thoughts. Don't give him a time limit, but set that limit in your head. A month, two, a few weeks? Give him a few weeks and if he has not called you call him or send him a letter and just remind him that you are waiting and although you would wait for him forever you need to be able to let your heart break all together and all at once instead of pieces at a time if he doesn't plan on coming back. The most important thing though is to do your best to think rationally and not to let your emotions cause you do something you will regret later. We women tend to over dramatize things and you will only push him father away.
2006-09-14 02:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety. I want to say anything is possible but chances are you two really need your space to think things thru. Somewhere you guys lost love and or respect for each other and cant seem to get back to normalcy. I dont want to think its permanent but fromt he sounds of it, he is certainly unsure about being with you but he is at least being honest about it with you. Do yourself a favor and be a strong woman and just hold your head up high and dont show your anger and leave with pride and dignity. You go to your dads and settle in there despite the long commute to work and take time to chill. Its ok to have space from your relationship from time to time but dont let the space drag out too long. Why not tell him that you guys are going to try a trial separation for a few weeks and then you can meet up and discuss what that was like to be away from each other. Look,life is a big risk and anything could happen here. Give yourself some credit though b/c it sounds like you totally love this guy but you know if he breaks it off, you will bounce back and find yourself a great man again! Woman always think they are not pretty enough or that they cant get better. Look, if he loves you, hell come back. Remember that saying, if you love something set it free, if it comes back its yours, if it doesnt, it wasnt meant to be. Be strong girl!
2006-09-14 09:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertainty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing games. He told you he wants you to move out, that he doesn't love you like he did. Then when you are going, he says, "wait, I'm going to a stag party this weekend but when I come back we'll see"? Please, that's if he doesn't meet somebody else this weekend. As hard as this is and as much as it hurts go ahead with your plans to move out. If you don't he will just hurt you down the road. Also if you show him that you are that desperate to stay while he goes on his rendevu this weekend to see if you can "work it out" , he will never respect you. It is more possible that he will realize what an ****** he has been and what he's losing if you follow up on getting out. But don't get your hopes up. Try to surround yourself with people that love you and be kind to yourself. Things will change for you. You will see.
2006-09-14 09:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Rhianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest it sounds like he might be seeing other people. just sit down and have a truthful conversation with him. tell him to be honest with you and tell you the truth. y'all been in a relationship for too long. it just seems strange how he would tell you he don't love you like he used to. you should ask him what made him change? and to be honest i think that you should leave, don't try to keep no man that don't want to be kept. i know that all this will hurt, and i can understand why your in love. but its better to know the truth and if the truth is that he doesn't want you anymore then its better to know and move on with your life then to stay and and be hurt time after time again. i know it will be painful but you'll eventually get over it.it for the best. remember what doesnt kill you will make you stronger. your a strong woman and i think everything will work out for you. good luck.
2006-09-14 09:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by stressed&depressed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for you to shack up with a friend and let him feel how it is to be with out you.
DO NOT tell him where u're going or how long you'll be gone.
this jerk off has hurt you and its time for u to grow some courage! don't be his doormat for heavens' sake! if u allow him to do this, he'll be like this forever more!!!
Move on my dear, let yourself heal w/o him all up in ur koolaid. Be youself, get to know yourself again and just live the life you were blessed with!
2006-09-14 09:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by cvs_girl_36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to sit down and have a heart to heart conversation, no beating around the bush. Ask the hard questions and get them resolved now.
Seems like he's playing games with you.
2006-09-14 09:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe and maybe not maybe hes tired of arguing and maybe hes meet someone else that he thinks the grass will be greener on the other side and he wants to string you along once you leave dont allow him to play you.if u leave dont be going over for sex it should be all or nothing live and learn our get broken but god made us woman to be strong you will bounce back and maybe if he doesnt see what he has someone else will good luck
2006-09-14 09:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by ladyrena12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he meant what he said initially, he wants you to move out. When a man tells us something we always hear what we want to hear and think he's going to change his mind. I think he's also sending off mixed messages, because you keep holding on and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings anymore than he already has
2006-09-14 09:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds really confusing. he wants u to move then he wants u to stay? he needs to make his mind up. but seeing how ur in love with him u wont see it. just move out and be with him and see how it goes from there. if it doest work out then just leave him alone.
2006-09-14 09:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by sexygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has fallen out of love with you.the love that is left is like a friendship love.I would go ahead and leave while he is gone.he will come back get mad again and tell you get out again.
2006-09-14 10:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋