She's in love with this guy but dosn't wanna get divorced what should I do to help her.
2006-09-14 02:12:43 · 32 answers · asked by tushpush1966 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have a friend just like that but its a guy. In my case I was there for him as a friend to listen and give light advice not encouraging his exciting affair relationship and not condemning it either. I believe that if they are over 30 then they are wise to know the pit falls of what they are doing and they have made their choice. So as a friend I can only be there for him.
2006-09-14 02:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by sakura4eternity 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just share your concerns with her but remember its her life not yours. If shes madly in love with this guy anyway, there isnt a whole lot you can say that will change her image of him. You best buckle your seatbelt in because you will be soon pulled into her situation. But look, good friends stick by their friends. Just be honest with how you feel but be sensative too. Just try to understand why she is so interested in this guy. Apparently she isnt getting something from her husband. You really need to think about not getting in the middle of it either with her and her hubby b/c that will make matters very BAD for YOU! Just be supportive but dont let her belittle anyone in the process. Just keep being honest.
2006-09-14 02:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertainty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for her husband. Its not fair when a man or a woman cheats on their spouse because you are selling them short. Her husband needs to know in my opinion. He needs to know that his wife is not loving him exclusively. He needs to know she is not respecting him as a man......She needs to be told to leave her husband so he can find a woman who will love him how he should be loved.
I know people fall out of love, but why hang on, if she wants another man. Tell her to do the right thing and either leave her husband or give up her lover. Its unfair to her spouse. If you are her good friend then you should be able to tell her straight. Talk some sense into this woman, if she cares anything for her husband she should leave him and let him find someone who he can love and can love him back equally.
2006-09-14 03:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my honest opinion you need to tell her that what she is doing is wrong, confront her. If her husband finds out he will be devistated and why is that a fair thing to do to the one that she claimed to love until death do them part. She is caught up in the rush of things, she doesn't realize that she is changing her life forever. Someone needs to tell her that it is one or the other because the world just doesn't work that way, you can't just have someone on the side and not get caught. It will come back to her. So do her a favor tell her that if she wants to sleep with other guys then she needs to tell her husband and leave. Put him out of his misery.
2006-09-14 02:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by lovelovelyme23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, you should not judge her. Be there for her a friend and lend a sholder to cry on if she needs it. I guarantee there is more to the story. I am in the same position as your friend and if it was not for my frined not judging me and being there for me reguardless-- I would be lost. She sees something in him you obviously do not. May be it goes deeper than a physical relationsship. May be they have a deep friendship and enjoy each others company. But all I can say from someone who is in that position. Please be there for her and do not judge her for her actions. Maybe what you need to do is just be a friend that may help her enough. Good luck
2006-09-14 02:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by chick29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We may not always agree with some of the choices our friends make, and we can let them know that we don't. But it all boils down to the fact that adults CAN and WILL make their own decisions. If she has any sense at all she knows the risk she is taking, so just be there to help pick up the pieces of her broken heart. But never say I told you so.
2006-09-14 02:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she has any respect for herself and her family. She is being selfish and not thinking about how much damage this will do to her family and her self if the affair gets out. If she is having problems with her husband and affair is only going to make it worse.
2006-09-14 02:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by ads_ags 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are all of these women so moralistic and preachy? What your friend does is none of their concern; you didnt ask what the friend should do. People cheat, people get divorcec, and some do worse.Good or bad its part of life.
As for you, as long as you stay out of the middle, it will all fall one way oe the other.
2006-09-14 02:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you friend, cant have her cake and ice cream at the same time without it causing problems.As for you, it would be best to stay out of it,this way later on, no one can blame you for getting in the middle of it.your friend has to make up her own mind, then live with the results.
2006-09-14 02:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after all she's an adult, she have to make her own decisions and learn to live with them too. If loosing her own family to be be with him then i suppose u can do nothing but be there for her. It's good that u r concern abt her after all, ur 1 in a million........goodluck!
2006-09-14 02:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋