i am very unahppy in my marriage.i have forgotten what it is like to be happy. I cant even remember what it is like to come home from work and spend the night wiht your husband. We fight everyday. whe we dont fight we dont talk or he is not around. We have been together since 20 yrs and now 32. First relationship for both. NO kids luckily. My question is how do i take the step to separate? I am scared and dont know what or how to do it. pls help:(
2006-09-14 02:08:21 · 8 answers · asked by nat n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First tell the other person you are not happy and think you need to separate.Then pack your bags and move out.Maybe you need some marriage counseling if you don't think that will work than divorce and get on with your life and find somebody you are happy with!Good Luck and I hope you find happiness!
2006-09-14 02:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by lisababyg ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you have come to the conclusion that you would rather be alone and lonely you will find the steps to restore peace in your life. Start by telling him if things don't change you are moving out. Unless you have already decided you don't care if he changes or not. In that case, move in with family or friends, Find a job if you don't have one.....then find a better living situation such as roommate or by your self. you can do it. It is scarey leaving that comfort zone so to speak that you know. Good Luck
2006-09-14 09:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by judih1957 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk to the door, open it and leave.
You had a life prior to him and you will have a life after him as well. No matter which way you separate it will hurt and you will cry.
What you need most is the initative to make the decision and follow through with it ... through all the difficult and not so difficult moments.
Look to your family and friends for support, but weigh their advice carefully. Sometimes the advice they offer may not always be in your best interest.
2006-09-14 09:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are describing my life. When he is here, we don't talk or he ignores me like I'm invisible. I have been putting things away in a storage locker so that when I do move most of my stuff will already be out of here. I am scared also but I need to get out because now my health is being affected by all this. Best of luck to you and I wish you peace.
2006-09-14 09:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by I love winter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple dig out the old phone book and look up divorce lawyers. and yes you are lucky there is no kids. are you one of he lucky women who do have a job..? hope so because you will have to suport yourself.. this is very easy.. pack your bags tell him you want a divorce.. and go find yourself a place to live.. that you can't stand living like this anymore.. You both deserve happiness in your lives and if seperating will give it to you. go for it girl..
If you are sure you want to do this only..
2006-09-14 09:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want donot be seperate try to communicate n try to show him how much u love him . n show tht he needs u not u. ok if doesnot
do work thn go to lawyer n ask him 4 ur nxt step
2006-09-14 09:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by candy r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i left after 17 years. i just talked to a girl friend and asked her if i could stay for a while. then my friend and i went and told him i was leaving and took my cloths. i then turned to the church and explained my situation. they told me that god doesn't want us unhappy so i was OK and to pray on it. so that is my advice to you .pray on it and then do as god tells you to do.
2006-09-14 09:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by kathy froggylady40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get out, do what ever you have to but do it.
2006-09-14 09:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by EL Big Ed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋