imagined where I would be in my life right now. ex. steady job. I'm going through steps to change my life like going back to graduate school, but I just feel like a loser sometime. All my friends say I'm too hard on myself, how can I cut myself some slack? I think I'm hard on myself because I'm not happy where I am in my life right now.
2006-09-14 02:07:30 · 10 answers · asked by horrorfan 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I think the most difficult thing is to find out what makes you happy. We are not trained to think that our happiness is important . Its always society's expectations of what constitutes 'happiness' which usually is a well paying ( maybe boring) job , car , marriage , kids blah blah. You find your unique path to happiness which defines YOU as a person & then life will be a truly joyous experience.
Remember most of us are in the same boat.
2006-09-14 02:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Praxis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-change is a slow-moving process, but I can tell you that, in the last two years of therapy and medication I've had, there have been notable changes in my life... so yes, it's possible to change, if you're willing to actually try to change. Now, I'm not criticizing you here, I'm trying to make a point. I didn't think I'd be able to make the changes to my life that I've made, but I have been able to do it, by taking baby steps toward small goals; after all, taking baby steps is still better than not taking any steps at all. You're trying to climb a mountain in one day and it's not possible. The process is long... it's a rocky, winding, and sometimes terrifying path, but the ground will eventually flatten out a little bit, and the path won't be so twisted, once you can wrap your mind around the basic concepts of self-help. You're going to have to give it time... and at least for now, what else do you have, if not time? Just give it a chance to work, it will be worth it in the end.
2016-03-27 01:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by Evelyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
***The best thing you can do is TAKE SOME ACTION*****
You are taking the first steps to turn this around by taking action, ie.. going back to graduate school. Change things up, join a gym, a church, anything new. Obviously what you have going now is not working for you, so change it up! I hate exercise but always feel better about myself when I do. Things like joining a gym or just making time every day to walk/run can greatly change your outlook because they are changing the way you feel about yourself. The walking/running is even better if you can find a friend to walk/run with. You have someone to talk to, bounce ideas off of, rant and vent to, plus they make the time go faster (LOL).
Keep busy and lay off yourself. However, if you find yourself unable to get out of this slump on your own, consider talking to a pro. Their is NO shame in getting help, depression can be dangerous and debilitating if not treated.
You have my best wishes...Good Luck!
2006-09-14 02:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by reevesfarm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I think it is commendable that you have ambitions for yourself. Many people don't! Many people are content to cruise through life accomplishing nothing and doing as little as possible.
I would suggest looking at the goals that you have set. Make sure they are realistic goals and attainable goals. Then write those goals out on paper (or in a blog) and work towards those goals. Nothing is more satisfying than reaching a goal you have set for yourself. Going back to Grad School sounds like a good start! I think your first goal would be to finish the grad program, and what do you want your next goal to be?
Personally, I always like to have a "Plan A" goal and a "Plan B" goal. Sometimes we fail to achieve our initial goal. Sometimes it may be our own fault, sometimes it is more or less out of our hands. This is why I find it nice to have a "Plan B." This way, if Plan A fails, you are prepared for your next step and you can continue on your path.
2006-09-14 02:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd compare myself to what I consider a really sick and twisted freak so I can say I'm not that bad.
Also, I'd just say the world sucks and I'm just trying to get through life, because it's not my fault crap happens.
But, in my own case, I just became apathetic. I don't really give a crap about anything one way or the other. Trust me when I tell you this is NOT a solution. It has some major drawbacks in other things that will haunt you forever.
Though, if I were you, I'd go to a bar, find a mildly attractive woman, and keep drinking until she's the desired level of hotness, and see about getting some without being slapped with harassment charges and/or beaten to death by the big, muscular boyfriend she's with. lol
2006-09-14 02:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. It's a fine line between ambition and self hate. The first thing to understand is that no one is where they thought they would be in life. It doesn't work like that. Go back to school and do what you can to make your situation better but don't forget to pat yourself on the back now and then. I don't know how old you are but I'm looking 50 in the eye and I'm still working on my life. It never ends. Well, That's not true. It ends. It's called death.
Good luck and don't forget to enjoy yourself!
2006-09-14 02:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by jymsis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same position as you are - I think it's sort of life catching up with you.
Just try doing a rigorous inventory of everything that YOU HAVE, that you own, and that you have personally and individually achieved, by yourself.
That always gets me out of comparing myself with my own high expectations of everything I wanted to be but havn't achieved.
Failing that, Jesus gives us all the love that we deserved, but never received. Good luck in the Graduate School!
2006-09-14 02:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by sciencegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u ( which im not )i would set a goal 4 myself and try 2 achieve it!!
when u do achieve it....OMG!! it is such a great feeling.......juss b proud of where u r in life b coz sum people dnt even get a chance 2 hav a life as good as yurs
2006-09-14 02:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write down your attributes and carry them with you. Whether you feel down or not, read them at certain times of the day as well as when you are aware of beating yourself down. Remember that it won't fix you overnight, it took years of practice to get good at knocking yourself, so it will take years of getting used to patting yourself on the back.
2006-09-14 02:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang dude sorry
2006-09-14 02:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by Evil D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋