My husband always wants have sex. He woul always light a candle and turn the country music on ( that's my favorite music) and when I would come in he would turn the dim light on then of course you not what happened next. Now, He just waits til I go to bed then he wakes me up. He doesn't turn the light on or light the candle anymore. Does this mean he is no longer inerested in me, and that all he wants is sex?
2006-09-14 02:01:34 · 24 answers · asked by no.#1 Mom 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men are horny lil devils maybe that is all it is!I think you should talk to him about it!Maybe you guys need to spice things up!Try it !It is fun!Good Luck!
2006-09-14 02:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by lisababyg ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't. Maybe all it means to him is: if he waits till your alseep then he doesn't have to go to all the trouble of wooing and romancing you. If he isn't a naturally romantic guy he may not enjoy have to do that kind of stuff. Also, he may think that because you have been married for a while that he shouldn't have to romance you.
A lot of guys think that when they get married that sex is a given. They just expect it. That may what your guy is doing.
I don't think that it is anything to be worried about. If you are surprise him by "attacking" (make the first move when he's not expecting it) him first. My husband likes when I intiate sometimes. He has told me that it makes him feel unwanted when he is the only one who makes the first move.
You should try it. Don't ask him if he feels this way until after you've done it. I never would have guessed that a guy would feel that way. But yours might as well
2006-09-14 09:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by tabberlynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to be more proactive in your sex life. You said that he would set the mood prior to lovemaking but you can be just as involved in setting up a romantic environment. Maybe he got tired of doing all of the initiating and decided it was easier to just wake you up instead. Sometimes men want their partners to make the first move to liven things up.....
You could start buying some new lingerie and maybe some sex toys and/or lotions/lubricants to spice up your sex life if you feel that your sex life is stuck in a rut. It doesn't take much for things to become routine after awhile and you find sex lacks spontaneity.
I think you will find that if you surprise him with something a little bit different or more exciting, you will also be pleasantly surprised with his response....I am sure he is still interested in you; afterall he still wants sex. It is when he stops wanting sex with you that he is no longer interested.....Good luck....
2006-09-14 09:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's like my marriage, then no it's just that you've been together for a while and guys seem to think once they have you they don't have to try so hard. I think it becomes like a routine or something! Mine slowly quit the foreplay and we would only have sex at night when we'd go to bed or he'd wake me up just like yours does. I had to find ways to spice it up. For example he was out of town the other night and I took some pics of myself on my phone and sent them to him, when he got back home....I am sure you know what happened. Anyway my point is if you want more from him you might need to initiate it. Also tell him how you feel about it!
2006-09-14 09:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Look, I am no expert. You should always go see professional people you trust if you are worried about something. But I would say your love life has fallen into a rut. It has become routine. He takes you for granted. You need to wake him up. Get him and yourself out of the same old patterns. Go out and do something different. And most of all: talk to him. And get him to talk back. Don't just suffer in silence. That's not doing either one of you ant good. Get him to help you put more romance back into your lives. After all, it is his romance too. You are not an inflatable doll, but a real person who needs a caring, attentive, and imaginative partner.
2006-09-14 09:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men just don't give a damn about all that romantic stuff that us women like. All they are thinking about is getting some I wouldn't say that he's just interest in the sex and not you. He's just being a man in the beginning they do the romantic stuff but after a while it goes out the window. Therefore don't stress it just go with the flow and don't always expect him to be all romantic.
2006-09-14 10:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just getting lazy. Try telling him how much you enjoy the candle and the dim light.
2006-09-14 12:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that before he would set the mood and that the two of you would make love before you guys would go to sleep, but now he will let you fall asleep and then wake you up to make love with you? I hope you don't take this offensively. If you have never showed any affection,interest, or desires in making love with him, but he has always showed them to you, then it could be that he decided to stop and see if you would begin to show him your affection, interest, & desires, but you are still not showing them to him! That could be the reason why he wakes you up for sex! A man needs a woman to show him that she desires him as well as a woman needs her man to show her! Love & Sex can not only be onesided, it takes two!!!!!!!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-09-14 10:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it probaly not that he doesnt love you any more its that the spice and the fire has went out in the sex life maybe you should try to be romantic to him turn down the light put on something nice play some soft music you try to be the romantic one and get your fire going again good luck
2006-09-14 09:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by ladyrena12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's lost the spark for being innovative, what's wrong with you picking up the reins.
It may rekindle the flame..... men do not always want to be the initiator, sometimes they like to be pursued as well.
Giddy up girl --- take the lead......
2006-09-14 09:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who needs a candle. i think he's getting bored with the same thing over and over again. change things around, do things differently. go to bed and just attack him, no music, no candle. just straight up attack him. im sure he'll enjoy that.
2006-09-14 09:07:34 · answer #11 · answered by locowherto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋