This guy my highschool sweetheart for almost 7 years we took a break for 6 months because he changed schools he came back because he did not like it and we got back together for three months. A girl from the other school that called him too say she was pregnant and he broke up with me to go marry her. Two weeks later i find out i am 2 1/2 months pregnant i told him so he knows i am. Unfortunatley his wife baby has some birth defect something to do with a serious heart problem. He took off and she keeps calling me to ask where he is?Recently though his friend and my new roomate has been giving me money from him. Yesterday he called me too tell me where he was.
2006-09-14 01:41:24 · 25 answers · asked by amanda h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He told me not to tell his wife but i feel maybe she should know. But i am grateful to my ex.bf for getting me a place to live with a buddy of his my roomate matt.
2006-09-14 01:42:05 · update #1
For that child's sake, YES!!!!!!!!!!!! He did it now he needs to step up & be a man about it!
2006-09-14 01:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man screwed around with the both of you and you both got pregnant! She got pregnant first and then he left you to marry her because of that reason! Even though he does not love her he should still love his baby and want to help her in every way! He got her pregnant & married her! I would think that he did that to be a responsible father! And now because you are pregnant and he is in love with you, that means that it is OK and that he should not take on the responsibility for his wife & child!!!!! Why don't you look at it this way, what if the tables were turned? And you were in the perdicament that she is in? Would you want him to leave you & your newborn baby high & dry for someone else and not want anyone to tell you where he was at?
I don't think that you would! And if he is showing you and letting you know exactly how he is with this woman & his new born child, and also letting you see what a jerk he truly is, then this should be letting you know that he will do the same thing to you & your baby as well one day!!!!!
Good Luck To All Of You!!!!!!!
2006-09-14 11:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Sounds to me like you are in a corner with this one. Look, its really not your job to get in the middle of his " stuff ", especially his wife. Sounds to me like this guy is just plain flat out scared to death and doesnt want to be responsible for his life and his actions. I agree with you to some extent that the wife should know his whereabouts but that is really up to him. You will only make matters worse all around. Its his conscience not yours. If he wants to run and hide and run from his birth defected child then he is the coward. He might have done you favors which is nice but this purely says something about his character to you. Watch out or you will get hurt next. Rely on yourself and dont get yourself involved more then need be. Hes a grown man and has to live up to his stuff. You are pregnant now and you need to care for yourself. If anything, maybe you can have a conversation with him or have a friend have a talk with him about telling his wife where he is. Be careful though.
2006-09-14 09:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by Uncertainty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds to me like he just married her because she was pregnant not because he loves her. I don't know it he loves you or not but I do know that if you want any kind of relationship with him and he said not to say anything then you shouldn't say anything. I think he would be very mad at you if you did. I think that if you and him are together you should make him at least pay child support for his other baby. He doesn't have to be with her to spend time with his baby that's what the courts are for. If she doesn't want him to get the baby all he has to do is take her to court and get joint custody. Really it sounds to me like he would rather be with you and he didn't marry this girl for love. I cant say weather or not he would be faith full to you but I definitely would not tell her a thing.
2006-09-14 08:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child Support ... that is all you ever want to do with this loser. Make sure it comes through the court system so he can't skip payments. Make sure it starts the day the baby is born. Get tested for STD's. Find a roommate that is not connected to this jerk. He will always be a loser. Give yourself and your baby a chance for a normal life. When the wife phones again tell her you don't have anything to do with him (the truth!) ...
2006-09-14 09:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not care if it is the lady or guy cheating, but it is not their place to go tattletale on someone. Sooner or later it will come out, and you will not be in the picture. There are too many people that get involved with someone else, but they cannot take care of their own responsibility.
2006-09-15 23:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep out of that it is not your place to tell her, what you could probably do is try and convince him to do the right thing.
P.S...you better be careful because if your baby has a defect too then he would do the same thing to you...hmmmmmm
2006-09-14 08:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by she 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think she needs to know. What a mess...and what an unprinciple little punk. And what bad judgment on your part and on her part. This is what happens when you follow the liberal mindset.
Another dumb answer below about "birth control." That's not the solution.
2006-09-14 08:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't talk to her. If the baby truely has health issues. She is going through so much emotional stress and she needs to be strong for the baby to get better.
2006-09-14 08:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by kerry9477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so he took off because the baby has a serious birth defect?? wuts he gonna do if yours has sumthin wrong..not all babies are born perfect...he sounds like a bit of a jerk to me leavin her because of that..the baby still needs love.....but u should tell her...after all its her husband...second thought dont tell her they're right it is his place to do that
2006-09-14 08:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by dixie_gurl872005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELLING HER WOULD NOT SOLVE YOUR PROB.BUT IF IT GIVES YOU SATISFACTION I DONT SEE ANYTHING WRONG IN IT.
BUT NOW THE TIME HAS COME FOR YOU TO BE STRONG AND WIN THE FIGHT OF YOUR LIFE.YOU ARE NO MORE A CHILD.MAKE SOMETHING OUT OF YOUR SELF FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR CHILD AND FOR YOURSELF.CHALLENGES ALWAYS MAKE YOU STRONGER.AND YOU HAVE A BIG ONE THERE
2006-09-14 08:55:46 · answer #11 · answered by illeteratii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋