how do you cope with the fact of having a miscarrige?

Answer 1

i had a misscarrige 12 weeks ago, i lost the baby at 7 weeks. my hormone levels were really low so i wasnt getting all the affects of morning sickness etc but i was getting abdominal pains. after i had lost the baby i just got on with life altho i spent the whole weekend while i was loseing the baby crying mostly due to the pain. looking bakc i didnt feel that pregnant and i think i would have been worse if i had already been for a scan and seen it. i have a good network of friends that were thier for me and my partner too a few days off work to just be there for me. and it also helped talking to my neighbour who hads also gone through a miscarrige. and the great news is that im expecting again and altho im going bonkers with worry it feels a bit different this time. but im still nervous that this is going to go wrong all i can say is stay strong and when you feel ready try again. hope this helps and your not alone!!!!

Answer 2

Coping with this is very difficult, and a different experience for everyone. I experienced one at the fourth month of pregnancy, and it was devastating! I talked to a counselor, as did my children, and I made a memorial website for my baby. All these things helped me, but I think about my little angel every day! It has not yet been a year, and there are times when it is difficult, but each new day is a little easier. I am so sorry for your loss. If you would like to, and feel up to it, you can visit the memorial site and decide if it is something you would like to do yourself to work through your grief.

Answer 3

I had one five years ago on Friday (9/15) which is also my birthday. The only way I can cope is to remember that my other two children 9&13 need me and be greatfull for them. They are both good kids. My husband and I talk about it also. He is always there when I'm down. My suggestion to you is to make a private memorial for your baby. You have had a loss no matter what. You need to grieve and never forget. If you suppress feeling it would not be healthy.

Answer 4

I miscarried at 16 weeks back in December. What helped me was asking my doctor questions about what happened. I also put my son's things away in a special box, so that I can look at them whenever I'm ready. Talk to others who have also gone through the same thing. Just the fact that you asked this question is a great start. Give yourself time to grieve before trying again. There's no rush. It helped me to give my son a name. I don't like to feel as though he never existed, but that he had some purpose in my life. It also helped getting back to work, and back to my old routine. Whatever you decide, do things only when you're ready. Honestly, it helps me just helping you. God bless you and your family during this difficult time.

Answer 5

You accept it as something you cannot change. I have personal experience with this and as a current father, I am very happy that we stuck through it and tried again and again until we had our wonderful daughter. Most importantly, do not blame yourself, if it happened, it happened for any number of reasons. Generally, the female body will not reject a fetus unless there is some viable reason that it must, or, in the case of injury to you such as an automobile accident that causes the loss of the fetus, well, those things happen, not to sound crude, but it's true, and it's beyond anything you can do to reverse it.

Just keep trying, go on with life and be happy, and don't dwell on the things that have hurt you in the past, instead, look forward to things in the future!

Hugs for you, I know we needed some then too.

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Quote:
If you believe in god: its part of the plan
If you believe in fate/destiny: it was meant to be
If you're atheist: At least it's not missing anything.
if you are pro-choice: Just a growth anyhow
If you don't like kids: there's one down.
If you don't have anyone left to offend: Politics anyone?
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You are pathetic. You are rude and callous and have no tact whatsoever. Why not go find a board specifically for immature people and post on there. Bleh.

Answer 6

The only thing I can advise you to do, is mourn your loss in your own way. I hated people telling me, that it was meant to be,a dn that I was still young. I blamed God for taking my child, but time will heal all wounds, you just have to get all of those thoughts, feelings, and emotions out there, it's okay to feel them, it's okay to be angry, sad, emotional, it's all very normal, just take your time, don't let anyone else tell you how long, or how short you can mourn, and when you're ready to try again, go for it. Supposedly, the first pregnancy is actually common for miscarriages. A nurse told me that, I still don't believe her.

Answer 7

When I miscarried in the 6th month of a pregnancy, I almost died so I was happy to be alive. I cried when I was putting all the little baby clothes I had prepared away and my toddler daughter asked, 'What? No baby?' Then I dug a large garden with a hoe and planted every vegetable I could think of and stayed in the garden all Summer. In the Fall I left my husband forever.

We all have to find our own way of coming to terms with it.

Answer 8

A lot of times, miscarriages is nature's way of expelling a fetus that was not developing properly or something else was wrong with the fetus. Many women experience miscarriages, more than you know. I would look at it this way and just know that you can probably have a normal pregnancy later on.

Answer 9

thats hard.. how far gone was your pregnancy? I suppose that doesnt really matter because a loss is a loss! I had a miscarrige on 9 weeks... it was hard.... the only concelation was that we conceived my first son straight away thereafter...

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 10

Allow yourself to grieve. If youre angry, be angry. If youre sad, be sad. Take all the time you need. DO NOT blame yourself...EVER! Its a very diffcult thing to go through (having gone through it twice), and no matter how early on in the pergnancy you were you have EVERY right to feel how you feel..dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Hang in there, you will be ok.