How do you feel about marriage?

Question

In the vows in marriage,it states to love,honor and cherish.What would you do if those 3 vows do not exist in your relationship.
Please exclude things like counseling and working on it,those have been tried and have been unsuccessful

Answer 1

Hurtful Memories

Can you really forget?
and live your life at last.

Does the love that I show and give you,
take away the hurtful memories of your past.

I only wanted to love you,
and keep your days free from care.

Have the memories of love been forgotten,
when life seems to be so unfair.

I know you have been hurt
and not looking for anyone new.

Your heart has been broken,
by someone you thought you knew.

There once was a time,
when you trusted and believed.

But now it’s still all a memory,
on how you were deceived.

There are so many things,
I would love to say to you.

But I can’t my love,
for the same reasons, as you.

By: Kenny P. aka cobra

Answer 2

Well love, honor, and cherish is probably present but you can do those things and still not get along. But if love is gone than the union of marrage is gone and without honor then the marrage doesn't mean anything if you don't honor the union and with out cherish means the marrage lacks the "special" it had in the begining. So you need all those elements to begin to work on the marrage. With out one of those elements means lack of all of them and separating the union is really the best option. It is hard to put honor, cherish, and love where it once was but no longer is, counseling isn't gona get a person to miraculasly feel these things your right it won't work.

Answer 3

what if your dream second relationship doesnt work out either? we have all become such egoists that marriages are falling apart every where.we just cant tolerate other people. You have already decided that the fault is his , and your big ego can be seen all around.In this kind of a situation even god would not be able to help you.Just remeber that if you fail with the first marriage the chances of failure with the second one are greater.
either drop your ego and ask for counseling or go ahead into another relationship with this kind of an ego.
but it seems you have already made up ur mind .best of luck.

Answer 4

Who's guilty of not not loving, honoring and cherishing? Hubby or you or both of you. If you have tried therapy, discussing the problem areas and If both of you have reached this point of no love, honor or cherish, I would say it's time to consider separate lives.

You need to feel these attributes not only about yourself but also your partner, otherwise your vows are nothing more than hypocritical words.

Answer 5

If those vows don't exist then don't marry him. He does not sound like the right one. Yes marriage is the right thing to do but if you are unsure it's only a waste of time any money.

Answer 6

if those three vows weren't met and you've done all you could....... I don't know if you've heard of the band Bare Naked Ladies but the have a line in one of their songs that goes " If there's someone you can do without well, then do so" Lise is too short to be miserable. Everyone deserves to be happy!!!!!!

Answer 7

Once all that was lost in my marriage I got divorced. Without that you're living a very empty life devoid of any chance of true happiness with another. As far as ever getting married again, at this point in my life I don't see it happening. There's nothing wrong with having a life partner.

Answer 8

Marriage can be a wonderful and satisfying thing. Although it should not be left up to amateur's. Sometimes it takes a couple to get it right.

But would I do it again? For the right woman, in a heartbeat.

Answer 9

sounds like you have been down that road and done that already. So the only thing left to do is to decide if you leave or he does. do you want this or do you give it to him.hope fully there are no children ,and you do not have to make areangements to set visitation. starting over is never easy but we are the flexiable race, It is to bad that after you spend time with someone you relize that you do not have that much in commen. I wish you luck and if you need to chat click my Q&A and email me I will try my best to help the times you find yourself needing someone to chat with.

Answer 10

If things that were important to me and I couldn't live without did not exist in my marriage, my marriage would cease to exist, and I would rather be single - or at least would have continued searching for someone who could offer me what I needed.