My work colleague and, I suppose, a partial friend, just had a baby boy and I bought her a beautiful two-piece (trousers and top) for him and spent a fair amount of money. I wrapped it up 'poshly' - LOL - and posted it off not so long ago. She left a message on my ansaphone saying that 'you should have brouhgt it to me in person and not posted it'. I bought it out of the goodness of my heart, but that's what she said.
Also, we sometimes leave home from work together (this was before she had her baby), to get the train and as the doors opened, I got on first and made my way to 2 seats for us both and she just went off in the opposite direction. I thought I'd get us both some seats, but she went the down the other side of the carriage. I stupidly went over to sit with her.
What should I do about her?
Please suggest - and thanks!
2006-09-14 01:34:41 · 9 answers · asked by The way I are 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you should just stop maknig such an effort with this girl, life is too short to waste your time on silly people who play games and mess you about. I wish i had taken my own advice years ago, i seemed to have lots of friends like this untill i decided i would only bother with people who were worth it. Find someone who deserves your friendship, she thinks she is the boss of you and seems to enjoy putting you down. Be polite to her and say hello but move on x
2006-09-14 01:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by ducky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be a bit cool with her for a while. I've found recently that this a good way of making people think about their behaviour. Her message about the baby present was thoughtless of her. Even if she meant that she'd liked to have seen you, she still should have said thanks.
As regards the seat on the train situation, maybe in future you should just look out for yourself, she obviously is a bit self centered. Her attitude towards you should change when she realises you are not a doormat. If it doesn't, then you have to ask yourself do you really want a friend like that.
Good luck!
2006-09-14 05:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute! Is there any possibility you're looking at this the wrong way? When she said, you should have brought this in person, she could have meant that she wanted to see you cos you're her pal!! She's just had a baby, her emotions are all over the place, maybe she thinks you're going to not want to be her mate anymore because she's had a baby. There's a possibility she's pushing you away before you reject her. If she is your friend and you care about her, you should talk to her and let her know she's hurt your feelings. Friends can work through anything.
2006-09-14 01:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by Oldfruit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a good friend be forgiving, after all you don't know what the hormones are doing to her at the mo and a friendship should be strong enough to overcome that sort of thing. Swallow your pride.
If it's "just" a colleague and you feel really cheesed off, then stuff her. Nothing worth hanging around for, not even the "hormone excuse". Learn your lesson and stay clear. Perhaps one day she'll ask what's bothering you.
2006-09-14 01:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by nicoled2408 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on what tone was used when the message was left. Maybe she would have liked to have seen you and said you should have brought in person, so she could show you the baby.
How often did the train thing happen? Once? Twice? More times? Maybe she just likes to be on her own after a day at work.
2006-09-14 01:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend doesn't seem very nice to you. Maybe she's tired since she had the baby or has post-natal depression. Have you asked her what's up? You should have a really girly chat with her about her feelings, that would patch things up.
If she's unable or unwilling to talk about it, maybe you could suggest counselling. If she still won't do anything, it might be best to find another friend.
2006-09-14 01:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest she dosent sound like a friend. if she had said thank you very much for the gift but could have come round would have been acceptable but there was no need for her to be rude you bought her a gift out of the niceness of your heart and she should be grateful i would say leave it to her if she wants to get in touch then fair enough but it sounds like she is just mean.
2006-09-14 04:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like a selfish *****, off load her you dont need friends like that you sound too nice.
2006-09-14 01:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wouldnt have anything to do with her...how selfish!!!!!!!.Unless shes thick she wouldnt ask you whats wrong.
2006-09-14 01:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋