I had been married to my husband for last 8 yrs.I t was an love marriage.He is 11 yrs older to me.He also happens to be 2 time divorcee.2 yrs back we had fightes and he broke my hand and took me to police station and just behaved like a creep.He threw me out and kept my son with him.I stayed with my parents.He never bothered about me and also started legal case against me.I didnt react to it as i never wanted to take up any legal case and bring my son to court.After 6 months on my Brother in laws insistence i statrted sending him mails and he then asked me to join him bak.I did that and reasoned out that i will get bak my son.Also sincee he was moving out from his parents house ,my in laws problems was also waived off.Two yrs later he has again come bak to my in laws city and i started working.He was without ajob.H estarted fighting with me and to larger extent it was my MIL's hand in that.He again started becoming physical.He one day called up my boss on pretext of meeting him.
2006-09-14 01:34:18 · 10 answers · asked by 2467 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know the truth - the actual truth and can you live with it .ask yourself
What is most important to me in my life - my child's future or my husband 's behaviour .from what you have written you are blaming your MIL and do have soft corner for your husband.Empathise with him and try to keep/remind his favourite things and help him discover his real potential not the beast side of him.Both of you start yoga or swimming or social service . Patience is the key in any marriage and you should por out your emotions to your close friend/any family member once in a a while.Yes Do not put up with any physical abuse and tell him that
More he hurts you, he will have to suffer the guilt pangs and ask him is that bothering him? Love unconditionally and when was it last time you both went out for a dinner /holiday.do it now
Statuatory warning : DO NOT WATCH ANY OF THE EKTA KAPOOR AND ANY OF THOSE IDIOTIC SERIALS.THESE ARE RUINING THE COUNTRY. Watch Sarbhai vs sarabhai, khichdi , have fun - life is too short to have fights.see the movie bawarchi
Good luck
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2006-09-15 04:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by s9consulting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what I was married to a monster for 8 years also and he beat me and tortured me also one nite he tried to kick me out on the freeway doing 70 miles per hr. The next morning I ran away leaving behind 4 little girls. In 3 months I had my girls and ran from him for 3 years with contracts on my head and being run off the road head on but in the end I won I lured him out on a back country road and as he approached with his arrogant *** I stood at the back of my lincoln and when he got close enough I pulled my 12 gauge out of the trunk gave it a pump. and fired. Never have I ever seen anyone back up so fast. It was the funniest thing I have ever seen. I was 22 then he never bothered me again until I was 47 and he showed up to see his children. Same o same person he tried to con my youngest daughter out of her high rise 4x4. I step in punched him in the nose and told him to get the f$*&(*k out of our lives because I wasn't 14 any longer and would kill him this time around. It ended and so what I'm saying get away from the coward and work hard to forge ahead but quit being stupid and begging him to hurt you more unless you like the abuse. I'm 57 now and I control my life not some jerk I say who comes into my life. My husband now knows that if he gets a case of stupid *** I'll injure him in his sleep so he behaves himself even when he's pissed.
2006-09-14 01:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by ROSEY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no decision to be made. You need to get out of that relationship . NO ONE SHOULD BE PHYSICALLY EMOTIONALLY OR VERBALLY HURT BY ANYONE IN ANY RELATIONSHIP...GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN..Get a restraining order against him ..Go to court get child support and get your child back. Find someone who can help you a relative or friend to lean on and get some help...Good luck...I hope you dont make the mistake and stay with him cuz if he broke your hand next time you may not be so lucky ..
2006-09-14 01:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see no one deserves the physical abuses so whatever he is doing is 100% wrong i think if ur son is older enough than he would understand everything and if u want to go to court than u can easily file a petition on him saying that he abused u physically so i think u can beat him in both the ways emotionally by winning the heart of ur son and u can ruin him as i am sure u would win the case if u file one
2006-09-14 04:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by aks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of this relationship for good. The next time you might wind up dead, like so many abused women do. Take him to court over your son and fight for custody, because as he gets older he might wind up being the abused. The sooner you do this the better off you will be!
2006-09-14 01:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by bubbles48 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run don't walk to the police station for a restraining order and take witness and evidence to prove his violence.
Next get straight to a lawyer for a divorce and child support. I'm guessing you are married.
GET AWAY FROM HIM AS FAR A POSSIBLE.
2006-09-14 01:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got a job. Take your son and get the hell away from him. and if he lays another hand on you clonk the crap out of him with a frying pan and tell him, he will be lucky to live threw his next encounter with you. but you need to get out before that happens. Good luck. and dont take his crap no more only you can change this. God will be with just ask him to.
2006-09-14 01:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by sugerglaze28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is you going back
2006-09-14 01:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by EL Big Ed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody deserves physical abuse.
Nobody.
2006-09-14 01:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by northernbornsoutherner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and? is it "to be continued" question?
2006-09-14 01:37:22 · answer #10 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋