I met my wife 10yrs ago and we went oversea study together, . We have a lovely daughter (6mths old), we're at our late 20, she is pretty and I am not bad as well. I don't smoke, gamble etc. we're running small biz ourself.
I would say i really love my wife and daughter.But what happen is our hot temper character causes too many fights between us, and i found my wife getting provoke and irritated easily these days. we've a fight again today and she is mad like crazy, throwing paper/letter/cup etc....she even threated to divorce and bring the baby away.. :(
Though I really feel sad and mad as well when we fight, but I alway has a limit/\. i wouldn't mention divorce or anything that would harm our family life. but look at her behavious i really feel sad.
Feeling sad if she really want to divorce (though I've apology), even sad and scare what will happen to my daughter? then she will be a single parent children, I really don't want it to happen... any advise
2006-09-14 00:54:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
six month old baby huh! pretty challenging and exuasting for both of you but remember your wife has been through a life changing experience carrying babs for nine months and going through labour.not a picknick i can tell yur.at the moment your wife probably feels a bit alien like it takes a good year for hormones,body and mind to get back to norm after conceiving.the things shes saying are obviously a reflection to how shes feeling sad and lonely by the sounds of things.probably not even to do with you just deep emotions maybe post nat depprestion.remember your the closest one to her so she will take things out on you try not to take it personnaly let her no that you are taking her seriously but you dont understand her actions ask her to explain what she really feels inside.deppression does funny things to our state of mind you dont think as you normally would and things bother you that would normally go over your head its hard to deal with.al i can suggest to you is that your noy alone nearly all parents with a new born go through this well everyone i no anyway so count yourself norm.what i do stress is dont let things get any worse both of you take a trip to the docs or health visiter explain how u feel and address the situation.also try and do something together that you did before babs came along it might make her feel like shes getting her identity back not just being wife or mum.it wont happen over night but you will both get back on track.goodluckx
2006-09-14 01:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can, try and stay calm and talk to your wife about what is troubling her. You say you both lose your tempers, over what? Do you have money problems? If its over trivial things, then you might have to rethink your approach to your wife. From my experience, women don't threaten to walk out of a marriage and take the children for no good reason. If she throws things at you when you argue, to me that is a sign that she is frustated. Have you looked at your behaviour? Find out what she expects from you and tell her what you expect from her. Tell her not to threaten divorce because that upsets you. I am sure she doesn't mean it, but nevertheless, tell her gently how you feel.
Good luck.
2006-09-14 08:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by Angela F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk. Most of all try to keep your hot temper in check. I was the same way with my husband but it was cause I was feeling like things were falling apart and he didn't care. After yelling he started to lesson and then things got better. See all I wanted was to know that he want me and our marriage. He use to not show his affection to me a lot now he does. Sometimes when you get mad you say things you don't mean and when you are hurt you want to hurt what is making you hurt. Maybe that is what your wife is doing trying to make you hurt cause she hurts. When things calm down tell he that you want to know what is going on and how to fix it.
2006-09-14 08:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife needs help with her anger management. She can get crazier over the years especially once she hits middle age and menopause kicks in. If you want to salvage your marriage, you cannot succumb to her temper and threats. Some women blurt rubbish when they are consumed in their anger. You need to make it known to her that you are the head of the household and not accept her unreasonable behaviour. Perhaps, speaking to a family counsellor might help.
2006-09-14 08:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is admiral and ideal that children grow up with both parents BUT it can be more harmful for our children to grow up seeing parents in dysfunctional relationships. There is no right way to go with this situation, but personally I would rather my child see us apart than throwing things and yelling. Our children mock our behavior and get into bad cycles that they see.
2006-09-14 08:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by tabby_24_2000_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling, anger management! This is not good enviroment for your daughter to be raised in get help.
2006-09-14 08:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by mistypa12000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to fight as much and talk to her when she's peaceful, go to familytherapist.
2006-09-14 08:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by happydial 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have gone through yr position and wat i can say is that when a woman gives up on his man, they can be very heartless.
fortunately, i have no kids tat time and tings when smooth and the divorce was uncontested too.
cross yr fingers and pray hard that im wrong
good luck...
2006-09-14 21:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋