2006-09-14 00:51:48 · 18 answers · asked by Julia F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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How to be happily married ever after?
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There's no foolproof way on how to get married and live happily ever after, but there are ways that you can make things easier in your marriage so that perhaps you might be able to stay married to that one person.l
First, have a great beginning. This means..do not have sex with someone just because you are dating them, just because you "intend" to marry them or just because you are engaged to them.
WHy? Have you ever watched the Jerry Springer show? Have you seen shows where men were having sex with over ten and twenty women just to have sex with them, and the whole time they were telling these women that they LOVED them and that they were the only one?
Well, how d o you protect yourself from players like that and from people who will just use you for sex and break your heart?
Well..the only way that you can protect yourself is by NOT HAVING SEX with someone until you are married to them.
Someone who is serious about you and who really truly loves you will want to marry you and stay with you forever. A player will just want to use you and have sex and the minute you put out sex for this player ..your life will turn around for the worst.
So, first .. do not have sex with anyone unless you are already married to them. That's step number one.
TWO: find someone who is the same faith as you are as the battle of two faiths is too much for a marriage . Yes, some make it through but you want a good lovingmarriage not a battle of faiths.
THREE: Do not get hooked with someone who is using illegal drugs or someone who is an alcohol abuser. This will wreck your marriage and at the least put you and your famliyi to be through hell. SO stay away from druggies and active alcoholics.
IF someone is an alcoholic and they 've been clean for less than three years.. pass this person by. They are too close to being an alcoholic fo ryou to risk your whole life on them.
So, begin by dating normal people who are not addicted to things.
When you get more serious and before , yes BEFORE You marry them, have a full financial disclosure, andthis will let you know if you are going to be hooked up with a gambler or with someone who has serious problems.
See the clue ..or the key here is to BEGIN FRESH ,and to begin good. This will give you a better chance at staying married.
BE HONEST TRUE AND LOVING..and know that nay cheating at all.any cheating will lead to the destruction of your marriage. If you intend to cheat, don't even bother to get married.
IF you are with a boyfriend or girlfriend who has already cheated on you once or twice, pass them by. There are thousands and millions of good men and woman out in the world who WILL NOT cheat ..so why stick with a loser?
Thats' the beginning of a happy marriage.
THEN, about friends:
Have MUTUAL FRIENDS. If there is someone who doesn't want to be friends with BOTH of you , then you don't need to be friends with that person. WHY? Because a true friend of yours will appreciate and love your mate too. They will WANT to be friends with both of you and they will enhance your relationship instead of bringing strife to your marriage.
When a friend is in question (such as an "ex" ...) when you are visiting this friend, you need to do it TOGETHER , not separately .
Visting an ex privately in a private place is a bad way to begin a marriage.
All of your friends should be your girls or boy's friend too.
Really question a friendship that doesn't want you included.
Yes, the boys have boys' nights and the girls have girls nights correct? Yes, and look at the relationships where this happens and most times you'll find that they are failing relationships and that one person or the other is cheating.
If you want to keep going out with the boys or girls..then why do you need to get married? Stay single and have seven nights a week as the boys and girls nights. That will make you happy.
I f youa re aperson that needs a boy's night out when you are married then perhaps you've not chosen the right person to marry. If you did, they'd be right there with you and you wouldn't be out with the boys.
So there you go, I've disclaimed the myth of boys night out.
And for you , for yourself.. if you want to keep going out with the girls..do not get married. Wait until you've settled down emotionally and you can handle and deal with being with ONE person and that one's persons' mutual friends and your own mutual friends.
Life is full enough and has enough excitement so that you don't need to go out and have a regular boy's night out.
YES, you can go to things like office parties that are once a year and holiday parties etc. And you can go to baseball parties..those are normal things and married couples go to these things together.
What part of the word together don't some married people understand?
Remember the "til death do we part thing? yea...ohhh..that..
that means..Honey..get your mutual friendships ..cultivated and begin to spend the time together....yes..you and her or you and him together..that's marriage.
Pray.. and eventually go to some church, even if you do both have different churches to go to..you can join each other in some services to see what the other's church is like (but if you begin by finding someone of your same faith, you bypass this long step).
Ask God for guidance in yourmarriage and in your courtship.
Always seek God's guidance in your marriage and your dating before marriage. When most marriages fail it's because no one sought God's guidance while they were dating..
So, get the best help that you can get by asking God to help you find the perfect mate for you .(of course they won't be "perfect" ..but they will be perfect for you in that they will be your special person chosen by God) .
ALWAYS communicate in marriage. The minute you stop talking that's the downfall of the marriage.
If you can't talk with someone about the problems that come up (AND many problems will come up in any marriage)...then you have no closeness and there will always be an edge or wall between the two of you .
So, talking, preparation , God for guidance and beginning with someone who is more 'normal" ..that's the clue and key for good marriages.
2006-09-14 01:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way that you can be happily married ever after is to first put God the head of your household, with him nothing will go wrong, secondly abide to all of the wedding vows that you said when you got married and thirdly have a open communication with your husband about anything. Be his wife, friend, lover and mother role model if you have to. You all will grow old and happy together. No matter what happens, stay with your husband through thick and thin. Good Luck!
2006-09-14 08:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by chyna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you realize that it takes two people to make it work and they both have to try. Second you make sure that you and your spouse agree on what marriage is all about. Third you accept that at times it may get tough but you hang in there. As long as no is hurting anyone anything can be fixed. Third you hope and pray for the best.
2006-09-14 07:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a nurse to his children, a chef in the kitchen,a maid around the house and a wore in the bedroom.It also helps if your Dad owns a Brewery and you and all your girlfriends are bi.
2006-09-14 07:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by Matthew 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
hi
just u love whole heartedly. just give the best from ur side. and u must trust eachother with out having any kind doubts in mind.
rest god will bless u, remember love is all about giving.
cheers
2006-09-14 07:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by gudlava 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be faithful to each other until the end at all costs.
2006-09-14 07:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication, understanding, caring, devotion, unconditional love, trust, sexual appeal, and sticking by each other no matter what.
2006-09-14 07:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by Amy Renee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never do anything to intentionally hurt your partner.
If you do anything that ends up hurting your partner, apologize immediately & sincerely.
Always keep your partner in mind.
Compromise.
It's not always easy, but it's worth it.
2006-09-14 08:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
trust more,ignore a little,love selflessly,drop the ego,forget and forgive.but pray to God.
2006-09-14 07:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by natasha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
True love, complete trust, and be completly true to each other.
2006-09-14 07:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by bfm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋