I'm involved with a 43 year old women who has never experienced an orgasm in her life except for three times in her sleep. I'm wondering if these were even orgasms.
2006-09-14 00:50:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
get to the sex shop and buy her a good vibrator
2006-09-14 00:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by mj23 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's possible that she had them in her sleep. If that's the case, then you know it's nothing physical keeping her from having one. Perhaps she's just never been able to relax enough or had anyone patient enough. Most women don't orgasm during intercourse, they need external stimulation.
Also, it's different for women than men. We have to be emotionally and mentally present to achieve an orgasm. It can't be rushed and she has to be able to relax. Also, if there's something in her past that is an issue, she may need to resolve that first.
If she's worried about it while you're trying to get her there, it may not happen. Maybe you could relax her as much as possible. Give her a full body sensual massage and be loving and patient with her.
Good luck!
2006-09-14 01:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you know if you've had an orgasm in your sleep???? If you're asleep then you wouldn't know that you'd had one, surely??
If your partner is 43 and never had an orgasm then I feel sad for her. Hmmm, perhaps she needs to learn about her own body, and find out where her 'buttons' are.
It must be frustrating for a partner who desperately wants to please and satisfy a someone, especially as so much media discussion and pressure is put on 'giving' the woman an orgasm.
An orgasm takes work from both sides, but it is well worth the effort. I think you and your partner might find the information here helpful... http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/0,,drpatti_216,00.html
I wish you lots of luck, and well done for being a caring partner and coming here for help.
2006-09-14 01:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Alfa Female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could have experienced one in her sleep, who's to doubt that she has?? It does sadden me that she hasn't experienced one while she's been awake though. Fact is about 75%+ women cannot reach orgasm during intercourse. The majority can only climax when recieving oral. It's not our fault, it's just how we go and it's how are bodies function. Some women can climax from intercourse and trust me the numbers of those who fake it are very high, but who would want to admit that? Uh I would, I did it with my first bf. Anyways, your chances of getting her to climax orally are by far greater then by intercourse. That isn't an opinion, it's a scientific fact. I wasn't able to reach orgasm until I found the right partner, had patience, and from oral, to btw. Just have patience and ask what she likes and see where it goes. Lots of patience though, and please don't mope and pout if she can't, there is nothing worse then feeling bad that you can't orgasm and then feeling the guilt of your partner thinking they can't get you to orgasm. Good luck :-)
2006-09-14 01:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by Bailey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt those were real orgasms.
If she is 43 already and has never experienced an orgasm , maybe she should see a sexologist or something
2006-09-14 00:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by cindz_jess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow shes 43 and never had an orgasm? poor her
2006-09-14 00:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by bonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they were.....go to your local novelty store and get u a vibrator..or get a shower head that produces a lot water pressure and have fun......you will climax as much as u want to
every woman can achieve an orgasm....but try these methods and im sure that one if not both will definately work 4 u! :0)
2006-09-14 00:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In her sleep? How did she know she had an orgasm. Her story seems suspect to me.
2006-09-14 00:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they felt that good then they were orgasms
2006-09-14 00:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Ravishing Rue 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most women have orgasms which goes unnoticed....it is not like men's semen which oozes out....so there are chances she might be having them all her life with out realizing she even had them.
2006-09-14 00:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋