I am 31, woman and i was and still am STRAIGHT!! However, i found the person i was looking for in... another woman.
We've lived together for 4years and during that time we have shared the most incredible moments and we have been through the most difficult situations. Each day was like a miracle for us both. The perfect match. She has always been by my side - my guardian angel - my other half!!
We are now separated for 2years. The reason? I couldn't handle secrecy anymore and i wanted to have a family. I couldn't just follow my heart and not give a damn to the fact that my parents and friends will be against it!!
However, neither me nor she, can move on successfully and finding sth greater or with the same intensity in the eyes of sb else!!
I can't go back but i cannot take a step forward. I keep on thinking how unfair it is for my soulmate to be in the WRONG BODY!!
2006-09-14 00:45:08 · 17 answers · asked by MAIRANGEL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why are you cheating yourself out of a life full of happiness with the person that you love? Who cares what other people think. If they truly love you and care about you, they will realize what jerks they are being. If you settle for someone else just to save face to your family and do what they expect you to, you will only be miserable. It isn't UNFAIR and she isn't in the wrong body. You are making this harder than it has to be really. If you love someone as intensely as you described, they are right person for you no matter what body they possess! Good luck darlin'!
2006-09-14 00:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To say that you're still straight...sounds like perhaps you're a little confused. Were you physically intimate with this other woman? Why are you so concerned about what other people think - friends and family...if this is truly your "soul mate", it wouldn't matter what they think, only what you think. Sometimes members of our families can't accept or have certain prejudices to other people's choice of lifestyle/partner and therefore can make it difficult for the person involved. You have to be strong enough and have the confidence in yourself to know whether this is the right person for you. Then accept it and stop hiding. By hiding, it sounds like perhaps you were either ashamed or not certain of your own feelings. Until you can examine your reasons for hiding this from your family/friends you won't be able to move forward to your own peace and happiness.
2006-09-14 00:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...difficult one...i'm sure everybody can accept her as a person, maybe just not as your soul mate...when you look at nature, you'll see that everything has a time and place, a function and a purpose...what you won't see is that the lioness jumps on top of another lioness...and also for us, God designed you for Man... everything about you is to satisfy a man...to fit with it, perfectly... your friend may be your soul mate, but as in friendship wise... but that shouldn't change, but it doesn't mean because you haven't found the right male companion, that she's the one, and the one and only and that you must have a sexual relationship with her... if you have a well balanced, yet super fantastic friendship, you have nothing to hide...it's cool to be close to someone and very special to share deep things, but it doesn't mean you have to cross the line! I trust things will work out! All the best!
2006-09-14 00:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by someone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have chosen what makes your life better and you want to share that with everyone and want acceptance too...it's going to a long road from here and for any family member or close relative to see eye to eye with you when they're straight and don't believe in same sex relations.
This is an issue that is uncomprehensible in so many ways.
2006-09-14 00:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, she's called a best friend, and perhaps you've crossed the friend line. Knowing what I know now, If your family and friends don't accept the person you think you should be with, then you should think very carefully about whether this person is right for you. Good Luck!
2006-09-14 00:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by veus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess that u need to follow ur heart, u only live once, right? and she is ur soulmate, there is no discussion about u spending the rest of ur life with her, i was in the same situation with a guy, and i got my happy ending, and it's time for u to get one.
and always remember, u r 31, and the clock is ticking, tik tok.
and also, she is ur soulmate, not ur family's soulmate.
2006-09-14 01:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by Slovenijan Wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what is right for you.
You said YOUR soul mate, not your family and friends soul mate.
You can make your own decision, and you must be aware of any decision you make.
Right or wrong will be between you and whatever religion or lifestyle you find acceptable.
Good luck.
2006-09-14 00:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by leftturnclyde152521 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!!!!!!!!!!! That is my experience also, but I learned, that if my family really cared about me, they would accept my partner. You must remember, that we all have our own lives to to live. You can not be bothered about others thoughts about your relationship. You do what you have to do to attain happiness. Soon they will die, and you will find yourself without someone to love. Just live your life. I like the song: I am what I am!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-14 00:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by Just enquiring/ inquiring 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe thats just who your supposed to be with...if u swear its in the wrong body..why did u start in the first place? stop making yourself miserable,get back with her adopt a few kids and tell everyone else to shove it ..im sure they do alot of things that piss you off right? and do they change for you? no...so take care of your business
2006-09-14 00:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To hell with what others think. If you let others run your life you will always be miserable! If your friends can't accept that then they are not your friends. Your family will come around if you are "straight" with them. (please pardon the pun)
2006-09-14 00:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by tjinjapan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋