2006-09-14 00:36:57 · 20 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey,you're a MESS!
2006-09-14 00:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a start stop taking him back your obviously not getting on or you wouldn't be splitting in the first place.secondly once you have got rid think of yourself as the one who had a lucky escape and the strongest out of the three of you in this triangle. why build his ego anymore hes having his cake and eating it.once you've got rid any money hell find himself another bird to add to the triangle and you can concentrate on finding yourself somebody decent that will make u feel good again.just think to yourself your dealing with the issues of being hurt now which in time you will get over.hes got it all to come and believe me that's a fact.you just have to be strong and send him packing when he comes running back with his tail between his legs.the more u do this the easier it becomes and you will probably start realizing what a waist of space he really is and not want to know him yourself.people who are insecure are far less attractive which is probably how hell start to feel once he cant get his own way.just remember keep telling yourself that u will meet someone u deserve and will be sleeping partners but you'll be happy and enjoying life rather than plodding along like a nobody waiting for your luck to run out hence your hubby [EXE] good luckx
2006-09-14 01:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I f you split up frequently, there is a major prolbem in your relationship. Instead of doing the yo-yo tihng, look deep inside of both of you and find out what that major problem is.
IS the problem the cheating. Yes, if you intend to get back wtih someone and you or he sleeps with someone "in the meantime" then it might appear that the love between the two of you is not strong enough to keep you together.
If you keep splitting up frequently , perhaps the break up this time should be permanent for the sakes of both of you because you are doing no good to you or to him by continuing this relationship of break ups.
Sometimes it's hard to let go of someone we love, even if they are cheating.
>>Make a rule for yourself for you r own good, if he cheats again, then the break up this timeis PERMANENT.
When he is sleeping with other women , then coming back to you, he is putting you at risk for many stds and AIDS/HIV. You do not want any of these diseases. So if you want to stay healthy and alive, break up with this guy permanently.
There is NO relationship worth getting aids or stds from.
It's just not worth it. So stop putting your health in danger and you life in danger (there is no cure for AIDS yet) .
Get yourself busy in your life and develop new interests so that you have no time for cheaters (even if they are your 'boyfriend).
Get some hobbies. Yes, get more than one. go out and meet new people. Get outdoors into the sunshine and STOP looking for that boyfriend or a boyfriend and just enjoy life.
While you are in the midst of enjoying life..the most beautiful person will come to you ...when you stop looking.
Quit hanging onto the cheater and go get yourself someone who will love you and respect you and let you know that by the way that he acts towards you.
Good luck and have a peaceful day.
IF you want to hang onto this dead wood in your life, WARN him that the next time he cheats , you are OUT OF HERE and out of this relationship.
You do realize, that he will cheat on you forever since he has cheated on you so many times before?
peace.
2006-09-14 00:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one thing he is your ex already why are you trying him again it did not work the first time and he is probably using the excuse of yalls split as an way to sleep with this other woman but as for dealing with the pain only time helps sorry
2006-09-14 00:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by prissymiss1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to totally stop seeing him - sounds like you are still hooking up for sex or whatever which is not that uncommon - but if he's running to someone else when you have problems, KICK THE GUY TO THE CURB - you DON'T want to be with someone who can't keep his pants zipped when you're not around or having problems together. Also - get tested for STD's. It will all hurt for awhile, but the calendar will take care of it IF YOU STOP SEEING HIM - otherwise, you keep re-opening the wounds.
2006-09-14 00:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by hausfrau31557 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Switch your thought process... I know it's easier said than done, but what helped me deal with the thought of my ex being intimate (again) with other men, was to think of WHY she was my ex in the first place! I thought of all the hurt, all the pain, all the lies, all the mistrust... that she put me through and then I began to pity the guy that she was currently seeing.
2006-09-14 00:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you "split up frequently"? Do you enjoy putting yourself through all that pain and heartache? I wouldn't want to stay with a guy who sleeps with someone else..besides you could catch a disease!
Dump him and move on.
2006-09-14 00:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bin this loser and the memories!!This situation is causing you more problems than it is worth.He is a cheat,simple and straight forward-there are plenty of other,decent,guys out there who do not cheat.You must move on from this episode in you life...as you have said,your thoughts are painfull,they will get more so in time if you do not let go.
2006-09-14 01:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he is your ex husband and you also say he splits with you?! Confusing!
If it is the thought of your 'ex' being with some other woman..all I can say is...let him have it!!! He is now your ex and is of no concern to you!
If you were so concerned about him, you should never have let him go!!
2006-09-14 00:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by Cyrene J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very easy - you need to end this relationship once and for all. The reason you guys separate? - he probably picks fights so he has reason to go to this other woman. He's seeing both of you!! Stop allowing this to happen and tell him to get lost.
2006-09-14 04:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him on some roller skates, open the door and You will eliminate some of these thoughts as your thoughts will be filled with no returned as he well be speeding away from you on those roller skates.
2006-09-14 00:43:05 · answer #11 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋