it is not general but personal to me
2006-09-14 00:24:35 · 10 answers · asked by surya 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
i think you need help from a pro.
it is normal for you to get angry when you got abused by someone,but for you being happy for abusing other is definitely wrong , You Become what you hated the most -
2006-09-14 00:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by Ace 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It sounds a lot like an empowerment issue. Naturally, when one is abused, anger is a very appropriate and natural reaction. To get pleasure from abusing others, however, seems to me to indicate that you perceive yourself as a victim, and to boost your self-concept, you engage in the same behavior that makes you miserable.
A good therapist could probably help you explore the reasons why you get a kick out of hurting others as you've been hurt, and assist you in developing new behaviors. It'll be tough, since you'll likely have to go back and revisit some pretty miserable times, but the time to break the cycle is now.
I wish you success in your endeavor.
2006-09-14 07:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by Chrispy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When being abused you should get angry. When abusing you should feel ashamed and guilty and want to stop. You probably feel a sense of control when abusing, and enjoy it because you feel a lack of control when being abused. You are not alone, many people react inappropriately because of bad things that have been done to them but you do need some help. Seek out a good counsellor to help you get to the root of things. Here is a great book that may help you sort out some of your feelings. It is called Boundaries by authors Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. Henry Townsend.
2006-09-14 07:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Robbie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your hurt mentally and emotionally, that is the reason why you feel pleased when you are abusing others, and angry when you are the victim. You try to analyze the situation from the experiences from past.
2006-09-14 08:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by menova 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a general question so don't worry. I feels the same but the difference is that when i abuse someone and he/she does not react to that and got upset than i feel ashamed of myself that how mean i am to hurt someone.
2006-09-14 09:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by goodbye 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
people get frustrated with things in life and take it out on other people this then frustrates you and you take it out on other people.it shouldnt make you happy to make people feel bad.you dont have the right to be arsey with people just coss you feel like it.
2006-09-14 07:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by NICHOLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe human nature. But in both cases it's bad. You need to stop yourself.
2006-09-14 09:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by intergalactica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because u r human.
2006-09-14 07:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by Sherona B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
otherwise you will be another mahatma Gandhi
2006-09-16 05:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by guharamdas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bcoz u're a sick heartless inhumane freak?
2006-09-14 09:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by wither_ed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋