my girlfriends sister is having a baby shower for her 3rd baby. i thought that a mother was only supposed to have one with her first baby. i believe that this is all about receiving attention and getting 'stuff.' does anybody else feel the same way?
2006-09-13 23:40:56 · 14 answers · asked by ? 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I think baby showers are more about getting together and celebrating a new life. Who said showers had to be about gifts? But maybe something inexpensive but appropriate would be nice - like a new picture frame or new photo album for the new baby? That's something they would really need for each additional baby. If you really don't want to give gifts for additional babies, you don't have to. But a card would be nice!
2006-09-14 01:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I thought it was one per baby. I threw one for my niece. I always planned on throwing a baby shower for her every time he had a baby. I certainly would have loved to. But since she passed away, I won't ever get that oppertunity again. The point of a baby shower is that it's a chance for a pregnant girl to celebrate with gher friends the fact that she and her signifigant other are having a baby. they usually bring gifts, stuff the baby needs. usually, her older children have outgrown the stuff from previous baby showers or she needs some new stuff. it's a chance to party with a baby theme and hang out with friends. centered on the pregnant friend. if you already have the stuff you need good gifts would be a years supply of baby food or diapers. think along those lines. formula. I mean, how fast do babies go through that stuff? Come on! What mother WOULDN'T be thankfiul for that? A few pacifiers is ALWAYS a hit and tyos? those are always good! a bib that says daddy's little prince or princess if the know what they're having? those are good gifts. little booties. this is a chance to play games and celebrate with friends that your friends is blessed by God. Be Happy and celebrate with her. when you go throug the baby books with your kids and show them pictures and kid three says wheres the pictures of my baby shower what are you going to tell them? sorry, we didn't give a flying flip about you?
2006-09-14 10:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only have one baby shower and that is for the first baby. The only way it is right to have a second shower is if there is a BIG age gap. I know a lady who's youngest is 8 and she now has a new born. Her family and friends had a small shower for her. I was ok with that because of the age difference. If they are only a couple of years it is not right.
2006-09-14 07:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe she just wants to celebrate her pregnancy and coming (but I could be wrong). I mean, every pregnancy is a life-changing event for a woman, and it can kind of suck when, second or third time around, no one else seems to care.
Baby showers are really for the first baby only, though, or if a mom is having a baby much later when she mistakenly got rid of all her stuff. Their purpose is to provide a mom with the baby stuff she'll need.
However, many women are now having celebrations for their pregnancies and oncoming births that aren't "stuff" oriented, and you can have as many of those as you want. Check out the links for more info...
2006-09-14 10:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by kalirush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it really makes me upset that when someone has a baby or is getting married they have five or six showers. I was just invited to my fifth shower for the same bride to be and baby showers....it seems every time I go into the mail box someone is having a shower. I don't believe anyone should have another shower after the first child.
2006-09-14 06:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be really unfair to have only one baby shower for the 1st baby. What about the others? I had a shower for both my children. And if I have a third then I want a shower for that one too. Every baby is its own person and deserves their own shower!!!
2006-09-14 06:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Slk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's technically called a "diaper party. And I don't think there is anything wrong with celebrating a new life, pampering the Mom and spoiling that little baby before the baby is even born. It's an exciting time whether it's the first baby or the 10th baby.
2006-09-14 07:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by 10 pts for me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends. my cousin had a baby shower for her first. then her fourth came 20 years later, so we gave her a shower. sometimes people like to give the mother to be a shower for a fun get together for everyone. anyways, any new baby needs new stuff.
2006-09-14 06:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by kimberly k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be able to have a baby shower with every baby.. its like saying the first is worth celebrating but the third isn't.. it's not always about the gifts.. if you dont agree with it, dont go..
2006-09-14 06:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by ashez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I know a few Mom's who are having their second child and are having a second shower. It's not like their children are twenty or even ten years apart. They're two and three years apart. I'm just wondering what they did with the first big gift I bought for them. Did they just throw it out? I'm sure it's in perfectly good condition. I had my first child about ten months ago and have been carefully storing each item that he outgrows. Maybe I should just expect new.?
2006-09-14 08:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by Emillea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋