I am pregnant YAY! But my fiancé wants to mess up, my fiancé wants to be a cop he's going to the academy when he turns 21, he has so much in store for him and he has a good family, that loves him very much, honestly I couldn’t choose anyone better or even more responsible than him to be the father of my baby I love him very much with all my heart, but just recently I found out that he’s planning to do stupid things for money, he wants to pretend like a undercover cop to presume drugs from young teenagers so he can give them to this guy Sam to sell and he would get 50% of that money, he said they planned everything out they have the badges and everything, honestly they look like real undercover cops but I don’t care I still think this is the most immature thing he has ever thought about, I told him to think about the baby and he said that if him and his friends try it once and it don’t work out then he will never try it again, what should I do?
2006-09-13 23:40:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I see he is learning a lot at the academy!
2006-09-13 23:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get someone to talk some sense into him, better still get someone to beat some sense into him -even if you have to.
Becoming a COP and doing the right thing is good. But what you say he intends to abuse this nobel profession then there is something really wrong.
You discuss the whole matter with some members of your family and his family also, prepare a session (only with yourself -while you and him are visiting one of the family homes for the night to sleep over). The issue has to be discussed and sense has to be shown to this young man -but in total privacy between the two of you. Lay it down clearly, tell him if this is a joke then it is a bad one and if not then there is no room for compromise. Logic should prevail, if not, in the morning call for a joint family session and give him the joint verdict. I am sure the family of the boy will be on your side and this will eventually be enough pressure for him to get back to his senses.
Good luck
2006-09-14 00:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by Iconic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should cut ties with him until he decides to stop. Impersonating a police officer is a felony. And he will go to jail, if not prison. That is just one count. The other is drug traffiking, which is also a felony. Eventually he will be caught. Either by the police or by the drug dealers. He'll wish he was caught by police. This is about the dumbest most immature idea I have ever heard of. You should leave him for a short term, or threaten to tell the police. He is only hurting his potential career. If he is caught, he will never work in law enforcement or any other decent job. For my opinion, I hope he never works in Law enforcement. He has no morals!!
2006-09-13 23:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by itsasecret 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Impersonating a police officer is against the law! Also, he is not setting a good example for the unborn child when he will be stuck in jail, he's not much good to the baby or you there is he? drugs =trouble even if he's not doing them, he's still involved. He'll never get to be a cop if he gets caught.
2006-09-14 00:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa.....he is sure headed down the wrong road, sweetie!! As far as being responsible.......I don't think so!!! He got you pregnant without being married............is that responsible??? As far as that goes, you are irresponsible, too! I would dump this guy in a New York minute becaue all I see is a lot of heartache and pain. He he devious, is contemplating doing something illegal and then tries to justify it by saying he is going to be a cop. With your knowledge of all of this, I have to question why you put this guy on a pedestal saying that you could not choose anyone better???? What is wrong with this picture?????
2006-09-13 23:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'll regret it when he is sitting behind bars and you'll regret it if he does it and you stay with him. You know about it and not reporting it will make you an accomplice and you can end up in jail too. Then where will that leave the baby that you are so excited about?In the care of foster care system or with a family member. Sorry so harsh but it's the truth.
2006-09-13 23:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by shelshe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance is having anxieties about how to cater for the family he has just started. Now he is getting desparate and is thinking the way desparadoes do. Calm him down and jointly think of legitimate things he can do to make money. If that fails involve his good family. By all means make sure he does not commit that crime. He can get killed.
2006-09-13 23:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by Johannu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smack him upside the head ... this is illegal on so many levels ... impersonating a police officer is a felony, not to mention he can kiss his chosen career goodbye ... in my opinion, i would not want him to be a cop anyway because he is susceptible to corruption .. not only that but his friends will blackmail him to expose him as a criminal if he does get on the force .... its a neverending path to paying off his so-called friends. plus, if he gets caught, he will pull jail time because the amount of drugs he is trying to score is a felony... and, what if during this silly stunt he gets shot and/or killed???? i dont think he is smart enough to be an officer of the law.
2006-09-13 23:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that for someone who wants to be a cop so bad, he sure isn't thinking like one. if he gets caught doing what he has planned, not only is he blowing any chances of becoming a cop, but he is also blowing any chances of being with you and the baby, he may be sent to prison, and he will have a record. remind him of that
2006-09-13 23:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by flwrgrl692001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no idea of the pressure on men to be providers for their families. I imagine that the only reason he's willing to do that is because he feels pressure to earn enough money to support you and the new baby. I would talk with him and reassure him that he means more to you than just a money provider. Tell him that you'd rather be broke than have him doing things that are illegal.
2006-09-13 23:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Couldn't choose anyone to be more responsible or better? He's talking about doing something illegal and unethical and he wants to be a cop? Are you really that naive?
2006-09-13 23:45:10 · answer #11 · answered by beach bum 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋