2006-09-13 22:35:39 · 29 answers · asked by sweet - angel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you are married, all friends should be mutual. If she is really just a friend, he would have introduced you two by now. Obviously he's hiding something. I would demand that he arranges for the two of you to meet or else give him the ultimatum of not being friends with her anymore!
2006-09-14 01:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by Nocturnal 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you mean about being "friends". If you mean what friends really means, it is okay no harm done, it's like the 'single girl' was met because of work, school or other places and in circumstances that the said 'married guy' did not exerted extra effort to be friends with the 'single girl'. But if she is a bossom and best friend why not introduce her to the wife, that would be much better.
2006-09-13 22:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by firedragon_luver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do believe that platonic friendships can work, but there has to be respect on the husband's part, if it truly is innocent perhaps introduce his wife to the girl, and make sure they only ever meet up in crowds of people, or with at least one other person there. Sounds extreme, but it depends how much the friendship means to them, I would not be that happy about my b/f having single female friends, I have stepped back from all of my male friends since my relationship became serious, because I just feel it would not work for us, and I do not want jealousy to set in and spoil our relationship.
2006-09-13 22:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before my husband and I were married, he had a female friend, and they seemed to be very close, he said that he had never had a relationship with her but that is beside the point, the first time I went to his home town, she had called him and asked if he would like to go have a drink, she knew I was there, and had never met me before, I was not invited, my husband did not go, but it has caused problems, she has never met me to this day, but sure has tried to stir things up a bit.
I am not saying that this would happen to you, but unless she is included in "the friendship" there really is no reason for you to continue this.
2006-09-13 22:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, pretty consistent answers already and I agree COMPLETELY. It is WRONG and hubby is playing with fire. I re-read the question and I am not sure if the hubby wrote it or the wife but here's the thing... Relationships (and people) are as different as can be. You know your relationship better than us yahooligans. So the question is..... are the husband and wife ready for an "open" marriage?
2006-09-13 23:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by spedtrap 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the situation, it can be normal to some people,
but there are others who think it's not.
My advice to you is this:-
In order to avoid unnecessary marital problem, it's best to
let your spouse known instantly that you've made friends with
a single girl and also introduce her to your wife without hesitation.
This will be a smart move.
2006-09-13 22:53:35 · answer #6 · answered by steplow33 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! It sounds really dodgy. Why hasen't the wife met this friend. Seems like the husband is hiding something and it just seems very strange and like a train wreck waiting to happen.
2006-09-13 22:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not normal no. If she is only a friend then there is no reason why his wife cannot meet her.
If the wife finds out that a relationship exists , she will not believe him that she is only a friend
2006-09-13 23:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by ges21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not advisable.
Unless already friends before they got married and the wife didn't get a chance to meet her because she was, lets say, an ex-college mate or ex- classmate who migrated to another country?
That, I think, is OK.
2006-09-13 22:59:35 · answer #9 · answered by sassy girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes pliz it's normal but remember friendship has a limit. if u have ageniune friend why not let yowife know about her ?
why should u keep it as a secret?
i think the best way is to invite this friend of yoz so that she meets yo wife than keping yowife suspicious.
let yo friend know that u have a wife .
hey be careful coz this so called friend of yoz might screw up yo marriege
2006-09-13 23:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by Halicate 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋