Am I living life backwards?

Question

I want to settle down and get married, have kids... but the last girlfriend I had that was separated, decided to not get divorced ( for her kids).
I met her AFTER she was separated. I stayed in that relationship hoping she would give in to divorce and she ended up cheating on me, 7 years later, because I wouldn't put her family first. No, I did NOT move in with her.

The one before that I knew couldn't have children, so I told her the third time we were together,we would never get married, but we got along so well, I decided to stay with her, no kids/marriage or not.
I moved in with her. 4 years into this one, she became more concerned about my paycheck than me. She became a roomate, instead of girlfriend. No intimacy. I stayed with her for 3 more years trying to make it work.
I can commit but am I picking the wrong women?

Answer 1

You sound such a nice genuine guy.Yes you are picking all the wrong women.They are out to use and abuse you.There are a lot of genuine women out there,(me included)but I'm taken.My partner was just like you,he is a soft touch.Can't see when someone is taking him for a ride.You need to wise up,because you do not deserve to be treated in this way.Take your time when you meet a lady.My man had to wait weeks befor he got anywhere with me.That is the type you need to go for.If they are eager to drop their drawers - steer well clear.You want to find someone with respect for themselves,they are the ones who have been brought up properly.Good luck in finding that special someone.

Answer 2

You seem like a nice guy but you wouldn't marry the girl because she could not have children? She cared more about your paycheck than about you? Guess you really did not love her because if you did, adoption would have been an option! You also went out with a married woman,separated or not,she was still married. That's trouble right there. Stop playing the victim. You know what you are doing wrong.

Answer 3

First and foremost it you are not living life backwards. when the time is right you will meet a lovely person to marry and have kids with. The women you meet have too many issues. I can't imagine putting someone else's family first I think you should first get to know how a woman feels before you commit to a relationship with her. For starters, is she keen on marriage, does she desire to have kids, is she working with a sufficient salary, how does she spend her money is she responsible or is she broke half the time etc court first before getting in too deep to a point where you cannot let go

Answer 4

sounds like you are picking women who really don't care about you but what you can give them. Any woman would be lucky to have you. But realize that those experiences made you the person that you are today. Take the next relationship slow and don't give so much (your heart) to soon, make her work for it. If she is truly into you she will "fight" for it. Good luck

Answer 5

Yes you are! For Pete's sake u're probably young and single and there are so many ladies out there like u, why don't u get involved with one.and do spend time getting to know her first, dont rush into a relationship.

Answer 6

You seem to be picking the women that are right for you at the time

Answer 7

I would think that you are not comparitable with them. Look for someone that have same equal qualities as yourself and someone that likes what you like.

Answer 8

Talk about it with her and decide. You have to tell her what is in your mind plainly.

Answer 9

F the hoe,, move on.

Answer 10

You are deserve better!