Bad mother?

Question

I have been reading someone else's questions and answers on here. The woman left her kids with a violent husband (she says he never hit them - how long until that changes) and she seems to have been sh*gging anything that comes along since. I think she is a bad mother for leaving her kids anyway (you would have to kill me before I left mine anywhere) she goes on about failing to get them back (wonder why) and at the same time is going on about the 4 blokes she's had since. I don't understand how anyone could desert their kids like that and carry on like an old tart? I think she's despicable. What do you think?

JULIE W
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Julie W I have read all of your questions and a few answers. Kids are always the innocent victims. Keep your knickers on and have some self respect. I know people who have been through this and they didn't leave their kids to go off sh*gging any Tom Dick & Harry. You are RANK

Answer 1

dont know who you mean but she sounds disgraceful.. a lot of parents behave in ways that amaze me, some poor people cant have kids amd would make excellent parents then you get these slags for mothers and poor excuses of men for fathers and it just makes me think somehow something is wrong in the balance of things somewhere..

Answer 2

To be honest, they both sound despicable and the children should be removed from both of them.

Remember, you only have her side of the argument.... he may not actually be violent, might be her warped way of getting some sympathy on here. Remember there is no way social services will leave a child in risk.... they've been burnt too much in the past and they err on the side of caution now... so is he really that bad...... or did he kick her out when he found that she couldn't keep her knickers up.

At the end of the day.... you never know whats going on behind closed doors, but children should always be put first, even if it means removing them from everything they know.

Just because you can't imagine walking out on your kids... remember some mothers do have to make this decision under appalling circumstances generally, so probably not right to judge all women as nasty horrible cows.

Answer 3

You NEVER know,MAYBE someone went to the courts and said she abandoned them and she CAN'T get them back. The husband may be violent but in a better possition to care for the children(has a job, can keep a roof over their heads and fed) About the four blokes, would it be O.K for a guy? I don't believe you would think it's as bad as you claim if it were a man who's had 4 different girls if the situation was the other way around.
Judge not lest you be judged. Bet your life isn't as cherry as you believe; maybe you better take a look at it before you go opining about someone elses situation. Do you have ALL the details? If not, you shouldn't be asking other peoples oppinions about it because they don't know anymore about it than you do

Answer 4

I think I know who you mean, I read some this morning. I agree. She sets a bad example to her kids. She obviously has no self respect either. My kids are my life before anything else. I don't know why people have kids if they are going to ditch them at their convenience.I think she came on and gave us all the thumbs down. Julie W. The more you say the worse you look. 4 months? Is that all? As for your hubby moving someone in in 2 weeks? Is it a competition to be the worst parent? Poor kids!!!

Answer 5

you obviously didnt read the whole of my question and additional details!!!!

I am not an old tart and unless you've been in my situation you will never know how hard it was for me to walk away from everything including my kids!!!

My ex's problem was with me, not our kids.

Not that i have to explain myself to you but i moved away from my childrens friends and schools and it was decided that rather than uproot them, agree for them to stay with their dad. I then moved house and now live right by their schools and friends.

You've just judged me as many people have, i only hope you find yourself in the same situation some point in the future cos believe me, you'll realise i had no choice!

I DID NOT LEAVE MY KIDS TO GO OFF SHAGGING ABOUT. IN FACT IT WAS AT LEAST 4 MONTHS BEFORE I GOT INVOLVED WITH ANOTHER GUY WHEREAS MY EX MOVED IN A GIRL HALF HIS AGE AFTER 2 WEEKS!!!!

Answer 6

Feel for the kids, my mother was the same she had 3 boys, all different fathers, I was given to my dad after the divorce and still ended up in foster care till I was 18

Answer 7

Simple. Take the kids away and offer them for adoption by respectable parents, then stick the wh0re into a hard labour prison so we can get some use out of her.

Answer 8

some women give mothers a bad name!
i wonder why any 1 wud do that? kids need all the protection they deserve..... especially from mothers!
that is why some of us have chosen to stay away from the sperm banks..... if he aint ryt then he aint.......
keep yo legs crossed til a good man comes along...... (trust me they are out there somewhere).

Answer 9

should have took kids with her, I would'nt leave my Kids with a violent **** cos that is what he is!!!! But there are two sides to a tale, maybe he just hit back? maybe she is violent? I dont know but if one side is to believed,, why did she leave the Kids?
xxx Kathy

Answer 10

It sounds awful and I would never leave my children, but it's not for us to judge other people - there are probably many reasons why she's behaving like this - all of them, no doubt, she will regret later.