I order beauty treatments online and now my friend wants me to order some for her (she won't give her bank details over the internet - which I respect). I told her that I will do this and that she can give me the money. I told her that I will put her home address down for delivery, but now she wants me to have it delivered to my home address! I said, "But I work all day long and won't be in to collect it". She said, "Yes, but your mum is there most of the time, isn't she and I work too?" I said, "No, she's not always in". I really thought this was such a cheek and I don't know where to go from here. I just didn't say anything to her after her last comment. What should I do/say now?
Thank you.
2006-09-13 21:55:27 · 34 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her to order them herself! You were kind enough to say yes and she had to be awkward by saying no to delivering them to her house! Why on earth would she not want them delivered at hers?! Sounds a bit suspicious to me, perhaps she wanted to order them and tell you she has no money once they arrived and ask you if you could either keep them yourself or give them to her for free or owe you back. Either way, you were kind enough to agree with ordering them for her, so now i'd just say no if i were you, sounds like this gals not worth the effort, or time of day!!!
2006-09-13 22:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by $@Z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What was her last say after you said that your mom isn't always in? I think she should be able to read between the lines. You have already helped her the best way you could by having hers ordered online by you and the least that she could do is to have it received by her personally and remove the additional responsibility from you.
Maybe you can just suggest that she have it delivered in her office or at her home by specifying a time of delivery. Normally these online purchases have a 24-hour customer service which you guys can inquire/request on regarding the delivery. Let her know that you don't want to be blamed or your mother if anything happens to the actual delivery.
2006-09-13 22:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just going to have to bite the bullet and say no. This is eing cruel to be kind. You have no garantee that she will even give you the money afterwards and it has the potential to get you ino deep water. It is your address they will have and it will be you they will chase for the money not her. Tell her you don't think it is a good idea and could cuase all these problems If she is a genuine friend she will understand, an even better one will get her own from the site or pay upfront and have it sent to her parents address. Good luck with tackling this one. It is hard when they are friends, but then, how good a friend is she?
2006-09-13 22:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she may be taking advantage of you. Just tell her to put her own address, or even better, rent a mail box for a couple of days and have the package delivered there. That way she can collect it when she is not working and save you all the trouble. I realy think the mail box is the best ideea, if you still want to keep her as a frend. Try telling her this.
2006-09-13 22:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by stephan rs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At one point or another we all are facing the fact whether to shop online or not...and give out our information...I know it is a pain to want to help, but don't like how you are being treated....your friend needs to do it herself, if you tell her and she won't do it...and still expects you to do it for her, even with her saying she will pay you back....I would not do it...and if she doesn't accept that, she was not as good as a friend as you may have thought. We all have to face these friendship situations, some are tougher than other times, but we have to stand firm on our beliefs on what being a friend is, if not you may be run over again and again...Good Luck...
"momof3" the post just above mine is a good idea...just wanted to add that comment...
~Peace~
2006-09-13 22:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by no_doubt! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her you are happy to order and take in her beauty products however you could not afford to pay for them up front so could she give you the money for what she wants BEFORE you order. If she is not happy with this then afraid not a good friend. Doing it this way you are doing what she wants but on your terms you have the control as I fear if you do it you may not get the money back.
2006-09-13 22:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it....she is clearly taking the p***. If you do it, you should only give her the goods when you have the cash. Friends and money don't really mix well so I would just be firm and say......Don't take this the wrong way but Its better if you order it yourself and most companies have a telephone order line and she can order that way. Or you can just say you no longer order from them which gives her no choice but to sort it out herself.
2006-09-13 22:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by IloveMarmite 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to upset anybody, tell her that the beauty company kkeps sending you the wrong things or charging you for things you didn't order and you are not using them anymore. Whenever you use the company again, just don't tell her but be careful she doesn't keep taking the mickey out of you.
2006-09-13 22:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by china doll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem. Order it and wait til it arrives. Then tell her what it cost plus your mark-up. If you are expected to order it, pay for it and then arrange delivery to the orderer you are, in effect, retailing it and entitled to a profit.
You are having all the hassle so why shouldn't your friend pay for your time.
2006-09-13 22:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she cannot expect your mum to wait around for her products. If it wasnt for you ordering online she wouldn't be getting them anyway! If you can see if you can get them delivered when she is having a day off or if she wants them that badly she will take time off to get them but dont do this again for her if she is not going to appreciate what you do!
2006-09-13 22:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋