We're separated and he wanted out of the marriage, he cheated and he says he can't stand not talking to me so he just wants to be friends and he wanted to know if when he need someone to talk to if I'll be there to listen. Im so confused that's why he left he was talking to someone he can trust about our marriage problem and now he wants to talk to me and just be friends. I really don't understand him.
2006-09-13 21:45:12 · 15 answers · asked by Hawaiianlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lifes too short to stay bitter.
2006-09-13 21:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Chick, i would personally tell him to do one!! but that's me . how can he expect you to be there for him when he did what he did. he cant have his cake and eat it. You will have enough to deal with with the separation so he should respect you and realise you need to be on your own to clear your head because it sounds to me that hes messing with your head big time and that isn't fair on you because now your all confused. just tell him you want closure of all this and the separation and see what he says just tell him exactly how you feel he might surprise you, you never no well you probably do. You see men don't have a clue when something happens like this they act all selfish etc.
Just try and tell him you don't want all this and you need time to think.
i really hope things work out hunni
take care x x
2006-09-14 05:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by Natalie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time to heal and get over the betrayal. Let him know that at the moment you just cannot offer him the friendship he wants but mabe with time you will get there. Forgive him, it will not be easy but ask God to help you. Bitterness will keep you from moving on and succeeding in life.
Sorry about the break up of your marriage.
2006-09-14 04:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by Cinderella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I fully understand what you are going through. I am going through that exact situation right now. It is hard for them to let go because they think they may regret losing us but they don't know at that time. "They want their cake and eat it too". They talk about the problems to this chick for comfort. They will even make **** up to make it seem like we are the bad ones. They don't know what they had until it's gone!
2006-09-14 05:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by joyall57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your self a favor and realize you need to work through this and be able to move on before you can actually be friends. Don't feel ashamed for how you feel and for however long it will take you to get over it. Be friends if and when you are ready. Don't be pressured!
2006-09-14 05:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by kmusic212 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's how he is; just likes talking.
I think that man doesn't enjoy closed relationships.
You should hold on to what you believe, because he will always be open to anyone who will spend time with him.
No harm in being friends, just keep your emotions under your own control.
2006-09-14 04:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a saying i think its somethimg like you dont know what u got until u lost it. Maybe he's realised that he is able to talk to you but it all comes down to how you feel about it, are you comfortable with the situation? if your not comfortable about it then it will just make u more angry about wat he did.
2006-09-14 04:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still love him, because the way you stated seems you like him and wants his friendship. If you are ready to reunite with him you can ask him, if he accepts join together.
2006-09-14 04:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by R S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is screwing with your head. Trying to have the best of both worlds... He has no right to expect anything from you after what he did. Selfish...Selfish...Selfish. Its all about what he wants and what he needs...
Just my thoughts....
2006-09-14 06:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by Tony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
after separation no friends business.
just ignore.
2006-09-14 04:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋