My wife takes off wedding ring because I point out 3 misakes on our apartment moveout statement. I pointed out 3 mistakes where we were incorrectly charged on a bill. It was obvious because I had receipts to go with it. She blantantly gets mad with me, brings up the past 10 years of every single mistake I ever made.
She has done similar things like this before where she would say that she nolonger wants to be engaged. She marries me and continues the same reaction. No matter what it is, if she gets mad she doesn't want to be married anymore.
As you can see we're married. Why must she be so dramatic. I am exhausted and hurt everytime she does this. I sometimes wonder if I should just make it happen for her. Just free willingly get the ball rolling to end our relationship.
I've explained to her how it hurts, she even agreed before marriage she wouldn't do this, but still does.
What should I do?
2006-09-13 21:38:16 · 15 answers · asked by Teknicl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh dear, I had one that did this too... every single little argument, off comes the ring. And I had the same reaction as you. Of course, she did it deliberately to achieve that reaction... her objective was to hurt me.
Luckily, I didn't marry her. Eventually I called her bluff, and one day - when I'd had enough - she got angry about something and threw the engagement ring at me, so I picked it up, went out to the shop where I had bought it and sold it, incurring only a small loss. Then I went home, packed my things, and spent the money from the ring on two weeks' skiing. She found some other poor sucker to marry eventually.
Anyway, this doesn't help you much, does it? I'd recommend you leave the ***** next time she does it. You'll be so glad you did, in the long run.
2006-09-13 21:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-27 00:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She feels threatened and like you aren't listening and understanding her. Translation: go easy on the corrections. She wants you to hear her talking and what she's saying. She doesn't care about the bill. No it's not fair for her to threaten divorce, but if you back off and try to listen to her and show some respect, she will probably stop bringing up your whole life. All you can do is change your reaction to her. You can't change her. That's what my wife tells me anyways.
2006-09-13 21:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is holding on to a lot of emotional past issues .. I would strongly suggest that you both go to couple counseling. The process will help your marriage, find ways to deal with the past and in addition how to communicate with one another.
Good luck and hoping that you two will have a healthy marriage
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-13 21:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
May be she is very confident that you'll not get anyone else! Just give blank calls @ home when you are not there( I presume that there isn't caller ID fitted on your phone) May be sometimes with lady friends voice. If still she continues, leave her! Don't be punctual at home. Probably she enjoys your sentiments being hurt!
2006-09-13 22:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just plain ignore it if she does it again, it is like childish attention seeking! She is hitting out in a way that gets your attention and she knows it. If she does it again, just calmly say 'ok honey, I know how you feel, you've said it before' and walk out of the room/house. Give her time to cool off and see what happens.
If she keeps it up, let her have her out..... if she apologises just say you are not prepared to put up with her hysterics unless she means it, and if she says it again you will assume she 'really' means it and start divorce proceeding.
2006-09-13 23:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is a bossy boots. Next time tell her shut up, give you a break and change the record. If she continues, maybe you should think well i either put up with this for life, or tell her your leaving if it doesnt stop, and do it.
2006-09-13 22:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by leigha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a man or a mouse?If she does this, then tell her if she doesn't want to be your wife she can move out - and kick her out. She'll soon change her tune. She only does this because you let her get away with it without penalty
2006-09-13 21:43:54 · answer #8 · answered by big pup in a small bath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a woman's nature to be unreasonable and she can't help herself. It's a test of your strength, your love and your patience. When she becomes like that, be calm, but firm with her as you would a child.
Feminists won't appeciate this advice, but there is a part of women that is like children and you handle it accordingly.
2006-09-13 21:43:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can no longer stand being in the same house with her, it's time to go ahead with the divorce.
2006-09-14 04:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋