I have three daughters and one son my oldest daughter is having a hard time accepting me and my husbands separation.She is constant using bad words toward me and her siblings especially her grandparents. Since the separation everyday for our children especially my oldest she is getting worse. I just don't know what to do with her.
2006-09-13 20:42:37 · 6 answers · asked by Hawaiianlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take her out for a mommy and me day, do lunch something special for you and her...Then ask her how she feels, listen without judging, then tell her how you feel.
2006-09-13 20:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how does your separation make her feel, she has just lost the one constant in her life,her parents,was it her fault? did she do something to make you and her dad fall out of love,? she is looking to lay blame. she is ten, talk to her ,explain that sometimes people fall out of love ,just as quick as they fall in love, it does not mean that you and her dad love her any less. the bad behavior is a response to a difficult situation for all of your family. if she was close to her daddy ,you will get the brunt of her anger, she may see you as the person who is trying to hurt her dad. you can reverse this situation quickly with a few well chosen words, don't bad mouth dad in front of her ,praise your partner for the good things in your marriage, your children. call a family meeting with all of your children ,get your husband there if possible, explain to all why your partnership broke up, find out what the kids input is , they will have questions, try your best to be honest with the answers ,even if they are difficult questions.
you need to nip the children's reaction in the bud and turn her attitude to a more positive one. regards LF
2006-09-14 03:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by lefang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off put a stop to her bad words and tell her you will not allow it. Take her and talk to her alone, tell her things change, people change. Sometimes things just don't work out and you and your husband will be better off separated. Tell her she has two choices, accept it, or be miserably. But you won't except or allow her attitude anymore.
2006-09-14 03:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by skeeta623 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here is a helpful website. Check it out!
http://helpguide.org/mental/children_divorce.htm
Also MayoClinic.com is an excellent resource.
Don't despair. There are plenty of things you can do to reassure your daughter and bring her behavior in line. I would imagine there are resources in your own area as well. Check the community pages of your phone book. \\
Best of luck to you and yours.
2006-09-14 03:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her about how she's feeling. When my parents spilt up I was confused and scared that it was my fault and worried that no one loved me anymore - she may be going through the same thing. Just talk to her about what's happening and reassure her that although mummy and daddy don't love each other any more, they still love her and aren't going to leave her.
2006-09-14 03:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tallia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
pls.get some help by a social worker if u need too...its so hard to tell them,specially if she a daddy's girl.....later on they understand but u to get help somebody or ur parents...
2006-09-14 04:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋