ok, this is the story. i was with him for 4 years, and we have 2 children together. he cheated on me because he said i didnt show him enough attention anymore, and we kinda split up. the night before mothers day my kids stayed the nite at his house, and on mothers day when i went to pick them up he wasn't there. later on that day i went back, and he still wasn't there so i called his mother. she said he took the kids to some female house to spend mothers day with her. after that day we broke up for good. but no matter what he is the first thing i think about when i wake up in the morning, and he's on my mind when i go to sleep. lately he has been saying we should get back together, and i always fall for it. we have sex and then he's gone again, until he wants to get laid again. i know in my heart it was ment to be,because i love him more than anything. but should i just let it go????????????????????
2006-09-13 20:30:19 · 17 answers · asked by *peeachez* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wouldnt get back together with him....
2006-09-13 20:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just concentrate on your children and you need to be shown love back NOt only threw sex but threw communication, He seems to know what you want to here to get together with u
see it would be fine if thats what both of u wanted as long as u use protection, But its not you want u seem to want him there all the time when he only wants to be there when its time to be romantic
how are u suppose to give him all of your attention when u have 2 kids, maybe if he helped u a lot more u would be able to spend MORE TIME WITH HIM but he cant have all of your attention now that you have your beautiful children, maybe when he was small he didnt receive the attention he needs and he should get it
but by working together and getting things done for the kids he and u will have more time for each other and to do other stuff that u want to do
i have been married 19 years and have 2 kids our children are the focus
i know people will tell u once a cheater always a cheater That might be true in some cases but not all - see if u both can come to am understanding where he gets the attention he needs without stepping out on you BUT SO DO also need that attention
MAKE SURE U ARE NOT GIVING YOUR ALL JUST TO HIM AND NOT THE KIDS OR JUST THE KIDS AND NOT YOUR SELF AND HIM, try to spread it out
LOL HOPE THIS HELPS at least a little good luck to u and your family
2006-09-14 03:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by sweepmasters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your quetion is really a question you must ask yourself: Do you love him enough to continue this way, knowing that it's probable that some day he may not return at all?"
You deserve better than this in my opinion and so do your children. Look at their faces when he leaves and when they ask "Where is Daddy?". They will grow up feeling deserted if you continue this and you will be a bad example for them. Kids know more than you think.
Please tell him your have outgrown him and then begin to build your life with you and the kids. Take them to church and maybe someday you will meet a nice man who loves you REALLY and doesn't cheat and who will love your children also.
It's hard I know but go for it.
Good wishes to you and your new life!
2006-09-14 03:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by a_phantoms_rose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you want him back after he took your kids to spend mothers day with someone other than their mother. that is just wrong on so many levels. Get over him and find a good man. Hes a dead beat father.
2006-09-14 03:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by chicata25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Don't need this kind of guy! He is exploiting and using you. Men never change, though you may think you can change him. But he still did the same things right? So don't think you can change him. Whitney houston has a bad throat now because she stayed on with her husband, instead she Got influenced by him to take more drugs. You see, the man never changes.
My experience with guys, like my dad, also shows. They do make u happy before they get you, then after that, they go b ack to what they were doing.
2006-09-14 03:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by Fenrispro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep getting hurt and be an emotional wreck then that is up to you, but i strongly advise to do what is best for your children because they will grow up thinking it is ok to treat people this way because mommy and daddy did it. Remember you two are setting the example of life for your children and you should want them to do unto others as they would want done to them, which is to be treated respectfully and to be loved and cared for not to use when they feel they need it. Treat yourself and your children with some respect and end it know and get on with your lives and be happy.
2006-09-14 03:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl, I'm sorry to tell you but he's just using you!! I know that it's hard when you love someone, especially when he is the father of your kids, but you need to let him go for the sake of you and your kids. If you have a daughter would you want her to be treated like that, or if you have a son would you let him treat another female the way you let him treat you? He dosen't respect you. He knows that your always going to be there when needs something, that's why he keeps you hanging on. You need to move on and figure out who you are and what you want.
2006-09-14 03:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by sexydragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a serious question. A man like that is a user, he is selfish and doesn't care about you or the kids. Get out of there, he can only do harm, Sex may seem nice, but it is only a band-aid covering a gaping wound. Either learn to be self reliant or get a man who will respect you and you kids.
2006-09-14 03:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kathykitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not Love, because Love is reciprocal. He obviously does not love you, and you need to find someone else. How can you love someone who sleeps with you but leaves you in the morning? Your children need to see you in a working relationship so that they grow up as full adults. You can find love anywhere most of the times love finds you, let go you will be more than fine.
2006-09-14 03:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by adrian p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about him and concentrate on bringing your children up. He's obviously no good for you, and so forget it. It may be hard at first, but it would be better in the long run. Find someone who loves you and will treat you with respect.
2006-09-14 03:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by Tallia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you constantly having him on your mind isn't a sign of love. It could well be a needy obsession to hang onto something.. anything.
And hey, you don't need to subject yourself to such hurt and pain. Wake up and walk out.
Like you said, it's a pattern that he always leaves after making use of you bodily. Take a bold step and yank yourself out of this now. yes, you must let go.
2006-09-14 03:43:21 · answer #11 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋