I nicely ask him to pick up his dishes or glass which he leaves around the house and I ask him to place his dirty clothes in the laudry basket. He never does. I'm tired of asking and picking up behind him. But the opposite is not true. When he wants me to do some thing for him (reiron a shirt) I comply right away.
2006-09-13 20:27:56 · 12 answers · asked by bonecrusher 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We both work long hours and have kids. I already had many talks with him, even the big cry. And I try to leave his stuff around. The mess only grew faster than cancer!
2006-09-13 20:53:08 · update #1
tell him you are going to get a cleaner in a coupla days a week,if he moans about the expense,tell him the solution is in his hands ,put up or shut up !!
2006-09-13 21:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know a marriage is not some sort of military structure unit. or a control band. you have to work on it but with love not demand. ok so you do what you do to please him. you should talk to your husband let him know what is annoying you, which is very little dont let it come between your marriage, but let it be known that it is a bother and you leave it at that you can not change the man nor can he change you. i am sure that you knew what you were getting into before you got with him, so this should not be a surprise, maybe the surprise was that you could not change him. just give it time he will soon see that it is a bother to you and prayerfully from his sincerity he will start picking up his clothes or washing the dishes. if you knew you were such a compulsive cleaner why did you get with a man that is so laid back? seems to me like he be the happier person not letting all this or little stuff worry him why dont you try it. you will be much happier
2006-09-14 03:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through my husband has those habits too he leaves his cups or pop cans around or when he's done with a pack of cigarettes he leaves the boxes around and I can't stand it when he leaves his under wear and clothes laying around on the floor they need to be in the hamper it goes in one ear and out the other I just tell him I'm not going to have sex with him usually he listens then *lol*
2006-09-14 03:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had that so i stopped doing anything for him. I never washed anything of his up or picked up his clothes. I just did everything for myself. Eventually after three months of having a trampy home he finally caught on and after a harsh talking to he has now amended his ways. A little
2006-09-14 03:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by sarah_99bc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage Counseling works wonders. Seriously If you are truly tired and you care about your marriage you should seek professional help.
2006-09-14 03:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by adrian p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is a typical male trait *grumbles*
let him leave a mess.. when he runs out of close to wear and dishes to use, he'll get the idea.
2006-09-14 03:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by .jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing his loundry and stop feeding him, and if you cna handle it dont give hims ex either. He will learn fast to pick up after himself. Been there, done that, and now things are good:)
2006-09-14 03:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by chicata25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you will do for him when he will do for you stop cooking him dinner and tell him he won't eat until he puts his stuff up and if this doesn't work get a cast iron pan and pop him upside the head lol just kidding
2006-09-14 03:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by p-nut butter princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop doing everything 4 him. just let it go in time he will pick up his things . and if he doesn't then put it all in a trash bag and give it to him.
2006-09-14 03:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by imslipperynwet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave his mess there for him...if he wants to be a pig or a slob...then let him live in it...I would go on "strike'
2006-09-14 03:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by celine8388 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋