We've been married for 2 years now,but before our marriage,he knew that i already have 2 kids,but still he wanted to marry me.The problem now is,he always throw on my face what he did to my kids,he always tells me that I am nothing,and that I'm worste than his dogs,even now that we have our own kids,I'm doing my best to do my part as a wife at the same time a mother of my kids,when I was confined in the hospital,he visited me once in my 4 days confinement.I want to give up on him,and leave with my kids.
2006-09-13 20:14:34 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give up on him and leave with your kids. It'll be hard but no one deserves to be treated the way you're being treated. You don't have to put up with this.
2006-09-13 20:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No woman should be treated like that. And you should not believe all the nasty things he says to you. I mean your like a dog??? @&$% him he is the one acting like one and the way he treats you is @#$%&%$ rude. He's abusing you verbally and mentally. Think of this : If he treats you like this how is he going to treat the kids one day frow it in there face as well. You need to take your kids and go... It will be better for you and them. I know you love him but its the best thing you could do for yourselfand the kids. They need a role model and the way he is acting he issint one. Would you like your kids to treat there partners that way to one day. Lady take your kids and run. You will find someone els. Someone that will treat you and your kids with the respect. Men that treat woman like that is insocure about themself so tell him just because he has a small you know what he should not take it out on you. $#@%&* asshole!!!
2006-09-13 20:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one deserves that. I think that you should get out of there while you still can. If you don't I think he might start abusing you like no other. Whether it emotional or physical. What matters is that he might start doing that sooner than you think.
And if it doesn't happen to you it more than likely will happen to your kids. Again get out while you still can. And when you leave take the kids with you. And DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT, tell him that your leaving in advance.
If he is calling you lower than his dogs, you don't need to be there.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-13 20:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jarod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you've got a real winner on your hands. Each time you go to the grocery store get cash back-- start hording it. quietly start looking for affordable housing. Stock up on those groceries. Contact a lawyer. Have all of your ducks lined up before you hit the door (which you need to do). Let the lawyer handle it. Just don't go back the I'll change story is just what it is a story. Start making plans to get away. Been there done that. Good luck.
2006-09-14 13:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you don,t need be treated like that i would leave if i were you before things
get worst then they are . He has low self esteem so he,s taken it out on you don,t
take this from him its not right. I would get out mentally abusing someone is just as bad
as physical and hurt just as much plus not good for the kids they can pick up on this become this way also by seeing behavior they see.
2006-09-13 20:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by bikerdollbaby72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hubby is real jerk. I would take my precious kids and get the hell out of there. It is bad for you, bad for them. Life will be so much better without someone who treats you so lousy. Sorry, sorry, sorry you would live one day, let alone two years with such abuse. Seek counseling before you start a new relationship. It will change your life. Good luck. You are right to leave. The sooner the better. Make sure you are safe.
2006-09-13 20:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his treatment harms your kids and it is time to leave, someone who says that you are worse than his dogs is not someone who you should stay with. His attitude towards other people will infect your children like a disease. Keep poison people out of your life. Move out get a divorce find a safe good place to raise your family and if he ever really and truly changes you will know. Otherwise don't go back ever.
2006-09-13 20:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave no one deserves to be treated like this, especially the mother of his children. He should be ashamed of himself I wanted kids my whole marriage 23 years but my wife said that she wasn't ready I finally left . It was and is very hard but you have to do what you have to do. Why is it that a man can have a wife, she bares his children and he then takes it out on her, I think he is frustrated with his loser job, his life and blames you for it..
2006-09-13 20:20:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave. There are a lot of good men out there like myself who believe in treating women with the utmost respect. HE is the dog if you ask me. Your children don't deserve that kind of abuse either. But you have to be willing to part waves and leave, a lot of time women just can't do it. Be strong.
2006-09-13 20:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay- this decision is all yours to make, but why the hell would anyone stay with a man who treats them like that?! You know that he doesn't love you... if he says that he does, then maybe he needs relationship help. Don't worry, plenty of women have been there and have had to do the same thing. For some reason men can do this to women and they don't defend themselves... If you can, leave....
2006-09-13 20:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him..grab your purse and the kids and walk right out the door..thats what I did and went to my sisters. I snuck out of the back door. The fact that you said "he knew I had twoo kids and he still wanted to mary me" means he has made your self esteem lower and lower by cutting you down..you deserve more.. the next day after you leave go file for custady of your children.. I have 5 kids and i left..
2006-09-13 20:21:09 · answer #11 · answered by Spinning Times LLC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋